Worried that child won't be invited to school parties because of my social awkwardness.

[Arrietty123]

Hi, I'm concerned that my preschooler is being left out of playdates and parties because of me. (Suspected aspergers, have passed all tests online, been referred by doctor for diagnosis but was rejected by the diagnosis centre due to being too high functioning) I can be very socially awkward when anxious and am horrendous at small talk. Tend to say silly things when nervous and struggle with eye contact.

Fairly recently my daughter was invited to a party weeks after all of the other children and it was clear to see that this was only after quite a few couldn't go (Facebook group) We didn't go. I've now become progressively more worried that this will be repeated when at school. To make things more tricky we will be moving to a new area soon where I know hardly anyone. All of the school mums will be strangers to me. Finding it all a bit tough at the moment.

Bump.

Why do you want to go to children's parties? They are horrible to go to.

I wish my children were less social as I find it very difficult, and try not to go unless I have to.

Hi, I'm not fussed on them either but she loves them. I don't mind being left out of things, I'm very introverted and am much happier staying at home reading a good book :) I just find it hard when she's excluded.

My experience is that once they are in school, you see much less of parents and your child will form her own friendships. If she is socially inclined, there will be more than enough parties.