Telling your children of your diagnosis

[disorganisedmummy]

Hi there, I have aspergers (dx a year ago) as does ds1 who is 10. We have another ds who is 8. Family life is very stressful and I often feel very alone and conflicted. Things don't seem to be improving and I was wondering if anyone has been in a similar position and has told their dc of their condition? I have tried to talk to dh about this but we don't seem to get anywhere. The fighting between the boys is getting worse and I get so stressed because I am so rigid and then it causes horrendous rows with dh and I.
Can anyone help?

Thanks Polter, how old was ds when you told him?
Dh is very unsure. He says I need someone (like a super nanny type) to come round and help me deal with the boys as most of the conflict comes from my rigidness and other such issues.

My dd is 8 and being assessed. I just received my diagnosis nearly 2 weeks ago. I've been telling dd for a while now that she might have AS and that I might too. I haven't yet told her I know for sure. Not sure why I'm holding back.

I can sympathise with a stressful family life!