Becoming a mum when you have a diagnosis of ASD

[WillowGreen]

Hi were any of you already diagnosed when you had your children?
How were you treated when you were pregnant? Am I likely to be considered to be at risk or referred to social services?

Thank you Poultergoose in what way would it have been easier? I know it's good to know because you understand yourself but would anyone give you any actual support or is it something they can hold against you?
I will get that book. It is exactly what I want.

Hi, I wasn't diagnosed before becoming a Mother but am now. When I had my babies (three over four years) I completely lost my shit due to disruption to my routine and sensory issues associated with baby crying. I ended up with a stay in my local mother and baby unit every time.

In hindsight if I had been diagnosed before I would have understood better which areas would have been difficult for me and arranged appropriate support. Which would have looked like, hiring someone to give me an hour a day sensory break. Hiring a cleaner to keep my house in order. Less visitors.

This is so helpful. I am really scared of child protection concerns. In the past people have treated me as if I am totally useless.
A lot of what you have said is me. I can't ask for help, am really bad in groups ( especially all female groups I always imagine they are talking about me behind my back).
It would really help me to have someone come in and help for a hour a day. I am terrible at house work at the best of times. I also can't cope with visitors. I know this sounds daft but I hate the idea of the health visitor/midwife etc just dropping round your house.