Any other women like me........

[SENMumoftwo]

..........who aren't that fussed about the intimate and/or sexual part of the relationship/marriage. I'm probably ASD.

I have never had a good sex-drive (I really don't understand that term?!) and never crave for sex either.

My amazing DH is wonderful and I love him more than anything. But, OMG it's a huge struggle to get into it.

Once I finally Get round to it and we get into the routine, I'm ok. However, after my period, I've got to build something up inside of me again to get started.

And that's another thing, I cannot initiate sex.

Is this normal for people on the spectrum or should I speak to my Dr?!

Yes I understand this feeling. Thankfully I don't have to take part anymore!

Looking back, I think I was bordering asexual but I used sex as a bargaining tool to get affection (illusory or not) and I could sort of enjoy it. However I never had that phwoarr feeling about anyone, though I could appreciate that they were attractive.

My last partner was very sexual, always hoping "it" would occur and I ended up finding it a terrible guilt trip as I just found it such an effort! It is funny though as I still want/don't want a connection with someone.

I'm really pleased to see this is 'something' as I've been feeling really weird.

I do enjoy 'it' but don't 'need' it.

Thank you once again PolterGoose I'll try and catch up soon

Hehe.......I've had a look and am kind of catching up.

I don't drink but will take a

I'm single at the moment but I've never actually enjoyed sex. I only do it because I feel like I have to and because it's expected but I always just find it either painful or I don't feel anything from it.

I don't really crave sex either and I wouldn't care if I never had sex again.

I'm not sure if that is my ASD or just me being weird.

It does seem to be pretty normal, doesn't it.........Maybe it's other people that are 'strange'

Oooo, brill. Thank you.

I'm sure I read somewhere that a lot of women with ASD are either lesbian or bisexual but I can't remember where I read it. A higher proportion than NT women anyway.

Even though I don't crave sex I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual but I'm not really sure

I believe a lot of ASD women are asexual too.

Oh right, I've never heard that. Thank you. I'll have to have a research.

I know I'm happy etc with my hubby and don't ever or have never thought I could be lesbian or bisexual. However, I still like to understand things that come to light, like this.