Been invited to a wedding! My worst nightmare! :-(

[Ineedmorepatience]

DP's nephew is getting married, we have only been invited to the evening bit but its still a nightmare and I am feeling slightly sick just thinking about it!

I own jeans, 6 pairs all pretty much identical apart from shade, hoodies around 10 all different colours and all have slogans of some sort! And polo shirts, dozens of them in all different colours (mostly shades of blue).

I own one pair of shoes, purple doc martins, the rest are walking boots or trainers!

Then I have Dd3 who owns 5 pairs of joggers, 6 hoddies and a million Harry Potter t shirts! She also has one pair of extremely tatty primark stretchy jeans which have gone all bobbly but the dont have them anymore so I cant replace them!

What the hell am I going to do! I have one week because we are going away the week before the wedding and no money because the clutch went on my car!

I am considering a mystery illness!

The whole thing just does nothing for me, can you tell?

Btw, DP and I have been together for 25 yrs and are not married!

Nope I really dont want to go! The thought is making me feel sick!

DP would like me to go though

Its not even just the clothes although I wish I was brave enough to go as me!

Its too horrible, all the people, the volume, being expected to have conversations that I cant hear and so much more.

Oh gee, I am so not feeling it!

Its one of those occasions where I will be expected to be normal and to be getting excited about dressing up and seeing people I havent see for ages.

I have barely spoken to her about it to be honest! I do need to!

Thanks for your honesty polter! Maybe I just need to grow a backbone and tell DP I am not going!

Don't go

This would freak me out too, and I have no clothes other than jeans and trainers

Could your dp just go by himself and make an excuse for you? It's the virus season after all.

The trouble with not going is that then I will have to face the spanish inquisition about why I didnt go! I dont think Dp's family will believe I am ill !

I feel like I already cause him a lot of issues with his family by being so unsocial that it seems like a lot to ask!

I do want to not go though!

Have you 'come out' about being autistic?

Nope! They just think I am weird and I dont have a Dx!

I recently managed to mask my way through an assessment and fucked up my likelyhood of being recommended for a full assessment!

I have decided for now I will have to remain self diagnosed because I cant put myself through that again!

Oh, no, why did you mask?

Could you afford to go private?

Re: the clothes. In these situations I whizz up to Saintsbury Tu dept and find something that will "do". Normally cheap too.

I bought a dress last year for a funeral and it has come in handy twice since then.

hidden I have pm'ed you!

all Yes I have done that in the past! Its probably about 40 yrs since I wore a dress though!!

If Dd3 wants to go I plan on doing that for her!

Good luck indeed - imagine how I feel. I am to be the mother of the groom later this year! Dreading it. Not the marriage of course. It will be emotional to see my son married. It is the primping as I call it. Having to look groomed. I hated having to look "smart* as a child. I would get very upset.

I feel like I am suffocating if I wear clothes that are "not mine"

I dont think any of my kids will get married! Their dad and I havent exactly roll modelled marriage for them!! My eldest lives with her partner!

you could get a jumper dress with a hoodie (look on e-bay)- black with leggings and some black boots (doc martin style) and drink all the wine on offer! .

@ molly That made me smile! I might be able to do that! I have Doc martins but they are purple but maybe they could work!

I could do with an emergency outfit really and that sounds like something I could manage!