Can anyone help/advise with issues in a marriage from me being an aspie and hubby being nt? Bit desperate

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Sorry for the long title. I was dx with Aspergers just before christmas and ds1 has it too. we've been together for 20 years and married for 15. we are having real problems communicating and getting on and it's becoming clear that it is partly to do with my aspergers. Dh is very bitter and hurt about things that have happened in the past and he can't get over that.We had our first Relate session last night and it shocked me just how much I have hurt him and made him feel like this though it was obv not my intention.
We love each other very much and want to make things work.

Does anyone know of any counsellors in the South East who specialise in couples with these issues-where one is aspire and one nt?
Or any books/forums or anything.

Sorry to hear you're having problems, there's a blog which is specifically for AS/NT partnerships/marriages. Apologies but I've forgotten the name, try googling, or maybe someone else can post a link?

There's a book by Eva Mendes, Marriage and Lasting Relationships...or something similar...have a search. I found myself marking pages to show DP because there were so many things that I do that I know upset DP and she explained them well, or the case studies did. He still hasn't looked at it

Agree with Polter- If he accepts your diagnosis, then just explains what you meant and that you never wanted to hurt him. If you don't mind me asking, is it possible that he has also hurt your feelings because he is NT? (i.e. bit of role reversal: in an autistic world, if he was diagnosed NT would he also realise that he has hurt you by accident?)-