Self pity or justified low mood?

[Cookingwine]

I am just about coming to terms that middle child DD10 has high functioning autism. She is quite crippled by it in terms of anxiety and we will have formal assessment to confirm the diagnostic soon. Now though I realised that DS12, myself, and DH are probably affected too and DD7 is likely to be dyspraxic. My biggest blow is that DS12 will be hindered by that crap, I thought he was fine. I am not sure I am making much sense but I feel sorry for him. I need to accept it and help him find strategies to cope with what he finds difficult. With DD10 I had a mixed feeling of relief and mourning when we finally understood why everything was so difficult, for myself as well, a light bulb moment sort of reaction, and I was not sad because I am nearly 50 and managed until then. But DS12? I feel this is just unfair.

Felt better this morning. There is nothing I can do to stop DS feeling anxious for apparently silly things, but I can help by providing support. There we go

Hey cooking - as far as all of us ASC ladies are concerned, there's no such thing as self-pity. We're all in the same boat and boy isn't it difficult to cope at times? Be kind to yourself

Thanks Mrs :) 2015 was a year of self awareness and understanding of my family quirks. It is nice though to realise that we are not "wrong" just different :) for example paying at the zoo gate this morning, the ticket office boy asked me how was my Christmas. I mean, seriously?? And all day at the resort employees making small talk. Soooo annoying.

Small talk is like kyptonite to people with asd

Indeed! Just makes me confused! And the Christmas holidays are difficult for everyone, we need the rest but miss our routine...

I am currently in the hairdressers sensory overload and small talk hell

I try to set her off talking about something then just let her run with it. Her new doggie is a good subject.

I struggle with small talk too. I always ask them how their Christmas/holiday/wedding was, but it's a learnt behaviour and doesn't seem particularly natural.

Hairdressers seem like a tricky bunch to deal with if you've got ASC. I hate having my hair washed byou others and the music they always play is too loud and far too basey.

I am officially an old fart