LEGO® rewards Feedback Thread – Non testers: what occasions do you usually reward your children for? 10 MNers will win a LEGO® set of their choice worth £50 *NOW CLOSED*

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This thread is for the 30 Mumsnetters who are currently participating in the LEGO® reward activity.

Here’s what LEGO® have to say: “Here at LEGO®, we’re interested to see what occasions you would consider rewarding or treating your kids with LEGO®? A great school report. Holiday treats. Good behaviour on a trip to the dentist. Helping in the garden. Tidying their room. Mum's little star. There is a great LEGO® gift idea starting from £2.49 that is fun, creative and made for every occasion. With so many sets to choose from, we think LEGO® is a fantastic gift for every occasion and we’d like you to tell us about it!”

Non-Testers: LEGO® would love to know what occasions you usually reward your children for. Everyone who adds a comment will be entered into a prize draw where 10 Mumsnetters will receive a LEGO® set of your choice worth £50.

Testers: We'll be asking you to add feedback three times - we'd like your first impressions now and at the end of each week of the testing period, we’d like to know when you rewarded your DCs with a LEGO® set, if at all.

So for your first impressions, we’d like to know:

• Which LEGO® sets did you receive?
• Which of your DCs would you be rewarding, if a reward/treat situation arises during the testing period?
• Over the testing period, are there any particular occasions (other than Birthdays, of course!) which you think might be a suitable time to reward your DCs with LEGO®?

Every tester who posts their feedback will be entered into a prize draw, where one winner will receive a £300 Love2Shop voucher.

Thanks and good luck!
MNHQ

PS: We've 'highlighted' the testers posts on this thread so we can see them!

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Hi, Lego Tester here. Thank you for choosing us!

- Which LEGO sets did you receive?
We have received the Lego City construction site and the Lego Friends ambulance

- Which of your DCs would you be rewarding, if a reward/treat situation arises during the testing period?
I will be rewarding 8 year old DS and 5 year old DD should the occasion arise.

- Over the testing period, are there any particular occasions (other than Birthdays, of course!) which you think might be a suitable time to reward your DCs with LEGO?
DS (8) may be rewarded for continued good effort and progress in Maths at school, or for generally good behaviour and kindness at home, although both of these things are things that he does anyway, so the reward would be more recogniton of ongoing work/behaviour rather than a reward for a specific event or something that he's been 'told' to try at IYSWIM.

DD (5) has been told that she needs to improve her behaviour at bedtime and dinnertime specifically. Both of these times are battles at the moment (they always have been, but now there are added tantrums!) so she may be rewarded for a period of successful fuss-free bedtimes.

Tester here. I've received one Lego Friends set and one City set.

I will be rewarding my 7 year old daughter.

There is a particular occasion over the testing period that I am expecting to give DD the lego for - it's her school sports day next week. She has quite delayed motor skills, and she's unlikely to win any races. But I'm sure she'll do her best, and I can reward her with the Lego for being a good sport and joining in with a smile.

We also have a check up with the hospital a couple of days after the testing period. I'll probably use the second set then, unless something else comes up in the meantime.

Non tester - I rewarded my son with a large Lego kit after he had some quite extensive and unpleasant dental treatment (think the child in the dentist in finding Nemo). It certainly softened the blow. Having three DC I only tend to reward the big things!

Non-tester - dc are rewarded for doing things "first time no fuss" ie helping out and doing as they're asked once without having to be constantly cajoled and reminded. Doesn't happen often

Non tester

We use rewards for doing activities which he finds difficult, perhaps not succeeding, but having a really good go at it.

We were recommended to use Lego in general to help improve his handwriting and fine motor skills. We have mostly been using Mixels. He has been given one when he has put in a good effort with reading and writing/drawing over the week.

Non-tester
In the past month I have taken ds to the Lego shop to choose rewards for passing his next swimming level and a music exam. He also added his saved pocket money so came out with a ridiculous amount of stuff! He will do quite a lot for Lego. We also use minifigures as rewards if he doesn't bite his nails.

In our house there's no such thing as too much Lego.

Non tester here.
The current thing in our house is dd (5) putting herself to sleep without me cuddling her.
She gets a comic if she can do it all week

Non tester

DD is only 19months old so I tend not to use bribery (yet!). She gets told she has done very well and Mummy is very proud of her whenever she has done something like been good round the supermarket or behaved before and after our swimming lesson (even if her behaviour hasn't been ideal - I'm not looking for perfection!)

DS is due in September though so rewards might start to be more tangible then!

I reward my DC when they are good in general but also if they do something good at school. In general after a good report or a certificate I give them a little gift such as magazines, Lego kit or dvds.

Non-tester. My kids (3, 8 and 13) usually get LEGO for their birthdays but I give them rewards for extra special behaviour. It can be anything from playing super-nicely together without fighting (it's a very rare occasion..) or helping each other with homework/tidying up toys etc. Something special so they are reminded that mum does know when they are doing something good and it's being appreciated in our hectic lives.

Non-tester here! We normally award for good behaviour or achievement!

Non-tester: we reward the children for different things due to their ages. DS is doing well in Reception - with lots of certificates for spelling and maths work. He was rewarded with a RC car after earning it by working hard at home.
DD was rewarded with marshmallows and stickers for potty training successes. She was easily pleased with the treats!
When they both do something super helpful they'll get to bake with me - usually something chocolatey.

Tester
Which LEGO® sets did you receive?
I received the LEGO City Building Site and the LEGO FRIENDS Splash Pool. Boxes were fine and they look really nice sets, thank you.

Which of your DCs would you be rewarding, if a reward/treat situation arises during the testing period?
Twins, both age 5 (but 6 in 2 weeks).

Over the testing period, are there any particular occasions (other than Birthdays, of course!) which you think might be a suitable time to reward your DCs with LEGO®?
It's only a week until half term and mornings aren't our favourite. We've made "Getting ready in the morning" reward charts to get us through this final week, with the LEGO sets being the carrot at the end of the stick. They are so excited I know they'll try their best to get them.

I tend to buy little treats fairly, maybe too, often. I will buy DD something for behaving very well, or to mark her learning how to do something (like remember to go to the toilet,).

We've had lego for birthdays for DS 4 & DD 1, & DS has chosen it with his birthday/Christmas money (he chose the fire engine. I've rewarded him lego for entertaining his little sister very nicely in the car/while I'm busy cooking etc without being asked to.

Non tester
We reward if DC clean out rabbits and guinea pigs and also keep their rooms clean without constant reminders.

Non-tester here.
We reward our 4yr old dd for keeping her room tidy, watering the plants in the garden, helping with the washing and doing the dishes.

Tester here. Thank you for the sets. The boxes got battered in the post, but the sets look great.

We have received the Swamp police and Demolition sets.

We will be rewarding 6yo DS, who has autism, with traits of demand avoidance.

We want to use the sets to reward him for doing lots of little things well, so doing routine things first time without a fuss, e.g. coming to meal time, behaving well at meals, coming to brush teeth, getting ready for bed, getting to school on time, etc. We will also give bonus points for anything that we see him do well (e.g. helping us to tidy up). A big thing is trying to help him get better at calming down when he is beginning to get frustrated - i.e. before he works up to a full meltdown. This is a tough one for him, so we will probably give extra points if that happens during the test period.

We have said that he will get a reward if he earns 70 points (which should be easily achievable for him in a week).

He has already started negotiating for lego sets of his own choice (he loved the new Ninjago room at Legoland last weekend), so if this works well, we could need an extension to house all the lego...

Can I just add, that the other posts are making me feel much better about the constant lego carpet in our living room? To be fair, if they sold it, I would probably have been tempted to install the carpet they have at the legoland hotel throughout the house. For now, we just have pictures of Chima decorating almost every room...

Non tester (sadly - please can I/dd be a tester next time? )

Dd gets lego for bdays and Christmas, occasionally she will save her money and buy a set herself.

Her favourites are lego city and lego creation.

non tester

Ds1 is 10, ds2 is 6, and Lego mad. (A self professed "master builder")
I Reward at home for going above and beyond. so offering help/tidying room/laying table rather than being asked. (Becoming more frequent as I'm due to give birth to dc3 in 4 weeks!)

non-tester DS age nearly 7, and 4

I do not regularly give rewards, certainly not for school performance or doing chores (I'm fairly convinced by the "unconditional parenting" idea that rewards can be manipulative and undermine intrinsic motivation) - but I do like to have small non-food treats to hand.
For example, my elder son has endured some unpleasant medical procedures recently, and I've given him small Lego kits to take his mind off it and to show him that I appreciate what a trouper he's being.

non tester DDs age 15 and 10.

I usually randomly reward for unexpected achievement. However at the moment DD1 is getting a reward every day she does a GCSE exam. DD2 gets a reward at the same time for being a supportive sister.

Sadly I can't reward with lego as the girls find it too fiddly (poor motor skills). DD2 loves her Duplo though.

Non-tester. We keep lots of bags and boxes of Legos stashed away around the house for reward.

Normally 7-year-old DS would get a reward when

1. he achieves a target in school (e.g. do not use capital "t" in the middle of a word), or
2. works hard in anything, e.g. swimming, tidying up or reading.