LEGO® rewards Feedback Thread – Non testers: what occasions do you usually reward your children for? 10 MNers will win a LEGO® set of their choice worth £50 *NOW CLOSED*

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This thread is for the 30 Mumsnetters who are currently participating in the LEGO® reward activity.

Here’s what LEGO® have to say: “Here at LEGO®, we’re interested to see what occasions you would consider rewarding or treating your kids with LEGO®? A great school report. Holiday treats. Good behaviour on a trip to the dentist. Helping in the garden. Tidying their room. Mum's little star. There is a great LEGO® gift idea starting from £2.49 that is fun, creative and made for every occasion. With so many sets to choose from, we think LEGO® is a fantastic gift for every occasion and we’d like you to tell us about it!”

Non-Testers: LEGO® would love to know what occasions you usually reward your children for. Everyone who adds a comment will be entered into a prize draw where 10 Mumsnetters will receive a LEGO® set of your choice worth £50.

Testers: We'll be asking you to add feedback three times - we'd like your first impressions now and at the end of each week of the testing period, we’d like to know when you rewarded your DCs with a LEGO® set, if at all.

So for your first impressions, we’d like to know:

• Which LEGO® sets did you receive?
• Which of your DCs would you be rewarding, if a reward/treat situation arises during the testing period?
• Over the testing period, are there any particular occasions (other than Birthdays, of course!) which you think might be a suitable time to reward your DCs with LEGO®?

Every tester who posts their feedback will be entered into a prize draw, where one winner will receive a £300 Love2Shop voucher.

Thanks and good luck!
MNHQ

PS: We've 'highlighted' the testers posts on this thread so we can see them!

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Non-tester. We reward our 4yo for using the toilet. It was very effective for potty training to use small rewards and lately he's struggled with constipation so it's helped to reintroduce a reward system for him trying to go to the toilet. As others have said, we reward effort rather than success. We recently had an amazing trip to Lego Land and found that when that was impending it was very motivating for good behaviour!

I reward my daughter for any positive achievements or positive behaviour she responds so well to praise!

Non-tester here.....

We've just started a new reward system for DS1, who is 5, based on being Polite, Respectful, and Kind. If he demonstrates all these in a day then he gets a sticker on his chart. When he gets 10 stickers he gets to choose a small reward e.g. a Minifigure, or bank it to save up for a larger reward. So far, so good, but it'll be interesting to see how it works once he is back at school.

I don't know whether it's the promise of more Lego if he's good but DS's behaviour has been amazing this week, and it's half term! Like night and day from last week.

I like to reward my son for things that he finds stressful to do but then does such as brushing his teeth or trimming his nails.
I also reward him if he behaves really well, sharing toys with friends and doing something kind for his brother WITHOUT me having to ask...

Dc age six was given the broken loo one (am away from home can't remember the name). It was deemed hilarious and much fun. It was given for Stirling effort at school and much deserved.

Is there going to be another chance for feedback MNHQ? Just asking whilst it is on my mind? The DC now have the lego book, we bought more in Asda (2 sets for £11).

Thanks for all your feedback :)

Testers, since we're getting towards the end of the testing period, please let us know:

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week?
2. If so:

• Which of your DC(s) did you reward?
• Which LEGO® set did you reward them with?
• What did you reward them for?

1. Overall, how did you find rewarding your DC(s) with LEGO®?
2. Would you consider using LEGO® as a reward in future?

If you didn't reward your DC(s) during the testing period, please do check in to the thread when you do use your LEGO® sets as rewards :)

Tester

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week?

Yes

1. If so:

• Which of your DC(s) did you reward?

DS2 (4)

• Which LEGO® set did you reward them with?

Lego City Bulldozer and toilet

• What did you reward them for?

DD2 and DS2 both had eye appointments at the hospital clinic today. DD2 went first, and when it was DS2's turn he insisted on sitting on the chair alone (he usually sits on my knee). He behaved perfectly, answered all the questions and did everything that was asked of him in terms of tests on each eye with and without patches, holding the cards, etc . It's quite a long time for a 4 year old to sit still.

Also part of the reward was because all of the children have been really good this half term, no fighting, playing really well and even yesterday didn't fight despite a 5 hour round trip to buy a new car! I was very impressed as they don't usually get along so well.

1. Overall, how did you find rewarding your DC(s) with LEGO®?

I have loved using the Lego as a reward, it's just as fun for me watching their faces when they get something worthwhile.

The only problem is DD1 (13) who felt a bit left out - but I will let her choose something else. Although she has joined in with the two younger ones and still enjoys Lego too.

1. Would you consider using LEGO® as a reward in future?

Definitely, as I said I enjoyed giving the Lego as much as they enjoyed receiving it. I think if the DC know there is the possibility of adding to their sets in this way it could become a good tool in the future .

Thank you so much for letting us be part of this product test, it made me really think about what behaviour is deserving of a reward and of what kind.

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week? Yes
2. If so:

• Which of your DC(s) did you reward? 5yo DD
• Which LEGO® set did you reward them with? Friends Splash Pool
• What did you reward them for?

Excellent effort at swimming with putting face under (a previous fear), and completing her handwriting practice book

1. Overall, how did you find rewarding your DC(s) with LEGO®?

Better this time, as she had an inkling the prize might be a Lego set, and she REALLY loved the first one.

1. Would you consider using LEGO® as a reward in future?

Yes, as an incentive definitely. Although it's pricey, so it wold have to be a long-ish term goal to work towards.

Thanks for letting us take part.

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week? No
2. If so:

• Which of your DC(s) did you reward? (None - had already rewarded in the previous weeks so both sets used)
• Which LEGO® set did you reward them with? - N/A (see above)
• What did you reward them for? (N/A - see above)

1. Overall, how did you find rewarding your DC(s) with LEGO®? - They loved it and it was a real motivator. I liked the fact that they could see the reward. IT made it more real and I do think that it helped with encouraging the desired behaviours.
2. Would you consider using LEGO® as a reward in future? -Yes. We have just bought two sets from Asda for £11 (bargain as £10 sets). I have squirreled those away for future rewards. It would be for big things though I think and not just usual reward chart rewards (pound tat rewards in our house).

I think exceptionally good behaviour is worth rewarding. Like if the kids behave really well under difficult circumstances such as long distance travelling. Great grades are also worth rewarding because it works and will make kids more likely to study more. I'm living proof of this! :)

Tester here, 2nd feedback.

1. Yes I rewarded my child this week.
2. - I rewarded DD aged 5.

- She was rewarded with the ambulance set. - She was rewarded for a whole day of just generally being very well behaved. She knew that if she managed a whole day of excellent behaviour, including being helpful and kind, then she would receive the second Lego set.

1. I found rewarding DD with Lego an absolutely brilliant idea! It would usually be sweets or a magazine that we use as a reward and I had never considered using Lego. DD was very pleased with her reward and it kept her busy for quite a while too
2. I am certain that we will definitely use Lego as a reward for good behaviour again.

Not sure I answered all the questions, so will put this in their format...

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week? Yes.
2. If so:
- Which of your DC(s) did you reward? Both dcs.
- Which LEGO® set did you reward them with? Swamp set and builder set.
- What did you reward them for? Extra good behaviour while I was ill, as it was a particularly difficult couple weeks for them.
3. Overall, how did you find rewarding your DC(s) with LEGO®? The dcs loved it. I didn't really think of using the smaller LEGO sets as rewards so this was a great idea. I'm already looking at other sets I can purchase and put aside to use as treats/rewards.
4. Would you consider using LEGO® as a reward in future? Absolutely. Loved the idea and the dcs loved it.

Just catching up with the first week's questions

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week? Yes
2. If so:

• Which of your DC(s) did you reward? 6yo DS
• Which LEGO® set did you reward them with? Demolition starter set
• What did you reward them for? For any time he did good behaviour he got a point - he earned the reward when he had 70. He loved it, and it did help to ease some of our trickier points in the day (brushing teeth, ending screen time!).

Non Tester

I don't reward on a regular basis except praise because if you start giving stuff away for the little stuff what do you give for the big stuff? Both mine (2 and 6) are mad on lego and would love it as a reward but it would have to be continued effort over a long period of time. Although I have brought a set and they've earned one part at a time. The big one loved this as I didn't tell him what it was until he'd got all the parts!! The little one was happy just playing with one brick!!

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week? - Yes.
2. If so:

• Which of your DC(s) did you reward? I rewarded DS who is 5, the Lego friends set was given to DD who is 3.
• Which LEGO® set did you reward them with? DS was given the swamp police starter kit. DD was given the animal ambulance set.
• What did you reward them for? DS surprised me by reading Peace at Last to me. He has worked really hard at his reading during this school year, but doesn't enjoy it, so I was so impressed he read this book to me without giving up half way through. The Lego set was a complete surprise for him, he had not been told about it in advance. He was absolutely thrilled. DD received her set at the same time for being a good girl at nursery and learning her first three phonics, S, A and M.

I would definitely consider using Lego as a reward in the future. DS has been promised a slightly larger set if he works hard towards his upcoming karate grading.

Hi tester here.

Thank you so much for letting us be testers. I also included youngest ds this week and bought him a small box of Lego technic to try and get him to eat a full week of meals.

I rewarded all of my dc this week 8yr old dd who earned the Lego friends hedgehog vet ambulance and 6 year old ds who earned the Lego police city swamp set.

We were rewarding ds for having good behaviour at school and for doing his homework without any arguing. Since we started the Lego reward chart ds has only had one slightly bad day at school in two weeks, which is tremendous. He usually has three or four bad days a week. I am so happy with his change in behaviour he has worked very hard and he's also done his homework every night with no complaint, a couple of nights he's just taken his work out and started his homework by himself which is unheard of.

Dd was being rewarded for getting ready for school quickly and for no back talking. Dd has gotten ready for school every morning without being hurried along and nagged and she has only talked back once in the two weeks, every time she's felt as though she was going to get grumpy and start arguing she has gone quietly to her room to calm down. I am so proud of her maturity.

And as it was working so well for older dc who were part of the Lego reward testers. I decided to tag younger ds on to see if he would at least try to eat each of the dinners I make and serve him and he earned his Lego technic. He even ate a spoonful of soup, so it's a huge improvement.

Yes I will continue to reward my dc with Lego sets, and I will use the reward chart I used this last two weeks to give them visual cues as to how well they're all doing. I will also continue to reward the dc with chocolate after the first week as I felt it made the final reward of Lego far more special.

My elder dc are all sitting doing Lego now and ds is so happy he can now do the sets himself and is hand flapping everynow and again with pure joy and excitement, we got a lot of hand flapping when he discovered the crocodile snapped its jaw and wagged its tail and the rafts and snake and spider were all brilliant each one made ds grin.

We got shrieks of joy from dd when she finished making the tiny car (ambulance) and when she found the hedgehog.

Brilliant sets each allowing the dc to be creative and imaginative. Loving ds making the crocodile eat the snake and spider, he's even letting youngest ds 2 play with him (which he never does). Thanks again for choosing us to be Lego testers.

Tester

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week?

YES

1. If so:

• Which of your DC(s) did you reward?

DS2 (aged 6)

• Which LEGO® set did you reward them with?

Lego City Builder Demolition

• What did you reward them for?

Consistently practicing his handwriting after school - no grizzles or fussing when I reminded him, and trying his best to follow the instructions. He did really well and even came to enjoy the handwriting exercises by the end of the week! I did keep it to a max of 10 minutes though, minimum of 5 mins depending on how quickly he managed to get through the work.

1. Overall, how did you find rewarding your DC(s) with LEGO®?

Very effective motivator - I kept it on display on a high shelf and reminded them about their reward whenever I thought it might be helpful. I've never done anything like this before so it was a novelty for all of us.

1. Would you consider using LEGO® as a reward in future?

Yes, but it wouldn't be every week. I would also let them choose the pack they wanted to earn as it will be more motivational. It would also have to be for a more difficult task, perhaps something they need to practice specifically for a short period of time. I'm thinking eldest will need a bit of a prod to learn how to tie shoelaces and I think a lego set would be appropriate for that. Youngest, I'm not sure about - he starts reception class in september so will see what develops from that!

Thanks for this opportunity. We all enjoyed it and it has been very effective.

non tester

doing a wee on the potty/toilet
brushing teeth
listening and carrying out instructions

Tester here

I haven't given the second set as a reward this week. Last week we did a reward chart for good behaviour/effort at school and oldest foster son, aged 7, received his as he got all 5 stickers.

Younger foster son didn't as he had a bad report on one of the days (and was off on another). As it is really behaviour at school that we are targeting we haven't completed the reward chart over half term, so he knows he's got to be good this week to win his reward. I will check back in when this has happened.

Ds's behaviour has vastly improved this week and he will be rewarded when he gets back from his grandma's tonight (if he has kept up the good work)
I will check in later when I am sure he has earned the reward!

Tester here.

I did give the second set this week to my younger DC. It was the digger set with the broken toilet.
Both DC had been invited round to friends houses to play, but DD2's had to be cancelled because her friend was ill.
So I gave her the lego to cheer her up because she had nobody to play with.

To be honest, I wouldn't usually give a toy for a reason like that, I'd usually get the baking stuff out and we'd make a cake together, or put a DVD on or something. But the Lego was there burning a hole in my pocket as it were, and she was delighted with it.

If I was rich, I might keep a stock of little toys for this sort of occasion, unfortunately I'm not!

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week?

Yes, for behaving nicely in the shoe shop.

1. If so:

• Which of your DC(s) did you reward?
• Which LEGO® set did you reward them with?
• What did you reward them for?

I rewarded dd8 and ds6 and used magazines as I had already used the Lego for rewards last week when we were camping.

1. Overall, how did you find rewarding your DC(s) with LEGO®?

Very good, the children were keen to earn the Lego rewards.

1. Would you consider using LEGO® as a reward in future?

Yes I would.

Tester here. Answering thes econd set of questions:

1. Did you reward your DC(s) this week?

Yes.

1. If so:

• Which of your DC(s) did you reward?

My 7 year old son.

• Which LEGO set did you reward them with?

The Lego City set with the bulldozer.

• What did you reward them for?

Helping his little brother so much when we were on holiday in Center Parcs over the half term. His little brother has autism and is non verbal. My seven year old took on on lots of water slides and showed him how to queue every day all week. He spent ages with him, even when he wanted to go on the bigegr rides which wouldn't have been suitable for my youngest.