Right ho, firstly, it's really important to avoid demonising the women who do need to use incontinence products. And, to be grateful that such items are freely available both in supermarkets and on the NHS.
So, I take your point, Pikke. And, if you want to chat about things then feel free to PM me.
The thing that makes me stamp my feet is that the facts surrounding incontinence are clear in the literature, but, not commonly known amongst women.
Here you go:
1:3 women wet themselves.
80% of them can be cured within 4 months of pelvic floor exercises and avoiding bladder irritants.
No leaking, of pee, poo or farts, at any time, is normal. None.
It's worth noting that "LBL" or "Light Bladder Leakage" is not a term recognised by the professionals. It's a marketing construct, and, an effective one, but, I'm not comfortable with the consequent normalising of leaking.
Leaking is not normal. And, most of it can be cured. Even people who have had a stroke or who live with MS can be helped so that the impact of poor bladder or bowel control can be minimised.
Unfortunately, most people just put up with it, we know that about 70% of people don't mention their incontinence to anyone.
I'd like to change that.
I did a guest blog about all this for MN, I'll find the link and post it on here.
For what it's worth, I don't have a problem with companies manufacturing pads which help people. But, I DO think that seeing Companies House tells me that Tena's profits in the UK are twice what the NHS spends on treating incontinence that they have a moral duty to put health promotion advice on their packaging.
That's something I'd be very happy to help with (hint, hint)
Regardless, hold for a count of 10, 10 quick squeezes in a row x3/day for 3-4 months. Don't hold your breath, don't give up.
Follow me on twitter @gussiegrips, I'll nag you into remembering to do your exercises.
And, have a look at pelvicfloorfirst - great website funded by the Australian Government, got a free app. And, squeezy, another app, designed by a physio. Bladder and Bowel Foundation here are great, got some good advice about bladder diaries. And, continence foundation, Australia - another very informative site.
See your GP, or just give your local physio department a call. Many of them run self-referral systems. You'll be seen in privacy, no curtains to peek through. ANd, remember, most people can be improved or cured.
But, in essence - do your pelvic floor exercises every day, stops you pishing yourself, stops prolapses, manages prolapses if you've got one and gives you smashing orgasms.
Save the best for last, right?