I agree with the general feeling here.
I am a huge home birth advocate however we should all have the right to birth where we'd like to.
With the full support of everyone on the team.
We should see the same MW each time and aim to know who will most likely deliver.
Our judgement should be encouraged our thoughts and feelings need to be addressed
more needs to be done to help our OH's know what is "normal" and what is not.
and for them to play a role in helping us be it hold our hands rub our back and say you're fantastic or be it kneel behind us in tandem deep breathing - whatever works for us!
Personally I can not imagine birthing anywhere except home I do though realise some women would not feel safe nor comfortable.
There is SO little support with choices
in Northants there are no birth centres the PCT do not advocate nor support home birthing
and will go out of their way to terrify you out of the idea.
the MW attached to the GP surgery would have anyone believe that not having routine tests is a death sentence birthing any other way aside from on back lots of instruments and drugs everyone screaming push is a "hideous idea"
the GP told me I was a ridiculous woman because I wanted to HB.
trying to change MW results in lots of ill feeling.
Luckily I ended up with a MW who had a small client group and a passion for her job who was mostly happy to support my choices
I had a home birth no pain no drugs no intervention no worry.
I went into established labour whispered to hubby had dinner with my family sent my daughter to bed at 9, ran a bath tidied the house up made sure I had things I wanted round me.
11 rang the labour ward to warn them
midnight rang again to say better hurry this is moving quicker than I anticipated
12:15 MW rings to see how I'm going and to tell me he was taking an amble over 12:17 changes his mind about walking the 10 minutes gets in the car.
12:28 he walks up the stairs says hello to my bum!
12:31 he dives across my bed to catch my son
my first HB was unplanned and paramedics delivered because the labour ward was too busy to have me in and asked me to hang on a while no one could have predicted that my first child would only take 5 hours from first contraction to birth.
Luckily all went well and I was glad it went that way.
However what is apparent is that if a woman chooses not to go into hospital we are left to it - I was expected to travel a hour away for the hearing test when baby was just 3 days old the Dr that comes out after a HB as per protocol had NO idea why he was there
I had to explain the MW rang as per protocol to give baby the once over and sign him off to say he's got 10 fingers & toes 2 balls and a willy!
Breastfeeding - again luckily my son has always fed wonderfully but no one really supported me during the early days.
with my daughter noone asked what I wanted to do.
Ladies - the Tories started all the closing down of the small personal units the MW's with such large loads that they are desparatly overstretched the idea that first birth should take 4 hours subsequents only 2 hours before the scalpel comes out.
Labour has done VERY well for the maternity sector.