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Mumsnet Zoomchat with Jonathan Haidt, author of 'The Anxious Generation' - ask your questions about kids, smartphones and social media here!

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RhiannonEMumsnet · 28/08/2025 14:13

Hi all,

We’re delighted to announce a live Mumsnet Zoomchat next Tuesday, 2nd September at 3pm with Jonathan Haidt, social psychologist and author of The Anxious Generation.

Jonathan’s groundbreaking work explores how the rise of smartphone and social media use has fuelled a sharp increase in mental health issues amongst children, and how this “great rewiring” is affecting everything from sleep to friendships to resilience. He’s been a leading advocate for collective action to roll back the phone-based childhood.

We began our Rage Against the Screen campaign because of the countless conversations on this topic on site, and we know it’s a huge concern for many of you. So we’re really excited to hear more from Jonathan about his work and to have the chance to put your questions to him.

If you’ve got a question you’d like to ask then please post it below. As ever, one question per user and do keep them short and sharp so we can get through as many as possible. You’ll be able to watch the chat live by registering at this link but we’ll also be recording so you can catch up if you can’t make it.

Thanks,
MNHQ

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NotTerfNorCis · 02/09/2025 13:58

Hi Jonathan, great to 'meet' you. I've read three of your books, and have seen your concept of the elephant and rider referenced on management course!

My question is about the impact of artificial intelligence. I've personally witnessed how even mature adults can come to rely on to do their thinking for them. How do you foresee this affecting young people, who haven't had the chance to develop their own research and critical thinking skills?

StephenKinsella · 02/09/2025 14:12

Hello, I run an organisation named Clean Up The Internet. We successfully campaigned for a provision in the UK's Online Safety Act that gives everyone a right to be verified on social media if they want (no compulsion) and also gives everyone the right not to see posts from any unverified accounts. Do you have thoughts on whether this could help shield people from toxic exchanges, and could even be a useful default setting for children?

drspouse · 02/09/2025 15:38

@MNHQ just in reference to the question being asked now - a lot of Northern families refer to "High School" when they mean secondary school, starting age 11.

PowersUnplugged · 02/09/2025 15:39

Today, my 12 year old son has two friends over for a sleepover and I've taken both their smartphones off them (my son doesn't have one). Thank you for giving me the courage to be unpopular and keep my child safe.
Jennifer

GirlfromJupiter · 02/09/2025 15:55

What would you say to the academics that are often quoted (in the media) as saying 'there is no conclusive evidence of the harms of smart phones or removal from schools improves learning' including the professionals (e.g. the Child Therapist on instagram with lots of followers) that purport we are demonising phones with no evidence, and give a very different view

NotTerfNorCis · 02/09/2025 16:03

I wasn't able to attend because of work. Please let us know when the recording is available! Thanks.

AllegedlyMe · 03/09/2025 13:11

For context, young people's digital environments matter a lot to me, both as a parent (DS1, 19; DS2, 15) and as someone who works in this research area, so I care about balance over alarm. I thought the moderator did a solid job managing the webinar and posed a wide range of the questions posted (including my own). The limitation with this type of structured Q&A is the format: the speaker controls the pace and framing, tougher or more critical questions get pivoted, and there’s no opportunity for follow-ups. That risks an echo chamber rather than a genuine exchange: great for monologue; less great for scrutiny or balance.

I want to address Haidt's response to my question.

My question as posted above:
Your work often presents young people as passive victims of digital harm and relies on selective anecdotes and interpretations of data that confuse correlation with causation. At the same time, your work largely overlooks children's rights to agency, autonomy, and participation, particularly in the context of digital spaces. While safety is, of course, a key right, how do you respond to concerns that your framing overemphasises protection in a way that silences young people’s voices, ignores their evolving capacities, and reduces their digital lives to something adults must control, rather than navigate with them?
[Text in bold read out by the moderator during webinar]

Haidt’s answer:
I appreciate the sentiment, and there is a… in the US, we have a very strong libertarian sentiment, um. That, you know, there shouldn't be restraints, kids should be able to do whatever they want, but we don't actually believe that about kids. We do believe that about adults.
Now first, to be clear. What I'm advocating is not that they not have the internet. Um, I'm often told, like, oh, you know, thank God for social media, it's such an outlet. For creativity, okay, let's examine that. Really? It makes them creative? Actually, kids who are always being interrupted are actually not very creative. There's evidence that creativity is dropping.
Oh, it's such an important thing for connection. Really? Kids used to actually have friends and not be depressed. Now they have fewer friends, they spend less time with other kids, they're not connecting, they're on screens all day long.
So, all of the supposed benefits, I keep looking, people keep telling me about these benefits. You know, the average child is on social media 5 hours a day. 5 hours a day. What are the benefits of that? Connection, creativity. Political expression? They still have the rest of the internet. They can write whatever they want and put it up on a blog. They can have their own Substack, they can send letters to the editor.
The internet gives kids a million ways to find information, find other people, connect with people. Do big things, create a website. They can do all that.
What I'm talking about is a few companies that are worth literally trillions of dollars. We don't pay them any money. How'd they get that trillion dollars? By selling our children's attention. They grab all of it from many kids, literally all, everything that's not nailed down, is taken by these companies, especially TikTok and Instagram. Um, and Snapchat. So, I understand the sentiment. But I just… I'm not seeing the evidence for the benefits. People say that it has these… but I can't find evidence that this is good for them.

Children’s rights are not a ‘sentiment’; they are internationally recognised and shape policy and research worldwide. They cannot be ignored simply because they complicate the narrative. I posed this question because there is a delicate balance between upholding a child’s right to safety and protection and the right to participate and have their voices heard on matters that affect them. It needs careful, evidence-led discussion, with children at the table, not knee-jerk prohibitions. Balance comes from consultation, digital literacy, targeted protections and accountability, and yes, it's more complex but far more constructive. Haidt’s reply illustrated the protectionist framing under critique. Rather than engaging with rights frameworks (e.g., UNCRC) or concerns that overemphasising safety risks silencing young people’s voices, Haidt reframed the issue as one of adult responsibility versus libertarian permissiveness. That rhetorical move sidelines children’s participatory rights in favour of an overprotective, adult-centric lens.

Haidt answered my rights-based question by mischaracterising it as ‘kids should do whatever they want online.’ That wasn’t the question or the intended meaning (obviously). Children’s rights aren’t a Big Tech plot; they’re a well-established framework supported by leading researchers and charities, i.e., they exist. See Prof. Sonia Livingstone’s long-standing work on children’s rights in the digital environment (LSE / Digital Futures for Children) and the 5Rights Foundation’s research and codes that put children’s interests first in design and policy. https://www.digital-futures-for-children.net/home

On the evidence, claims of a simple, global causal story (social media = epidemic of mental illness) don’t match the research base. Prof. Candice Odgers' reviews find effects are typically small, mixed, and vary by child and context; in terms of poor mental health, there are multiple determinants (not just screen use) that drive outcomes. See Odgers’ review in Nature for a short, sharp overview of Haidt’s work: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-024-00902-2 and her work summarising the field: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8221420/.

If you want both sides in one place, I recommend watching the Haidt–Odgers discussion hosted by the University of Virginia (TYDE) in 2024. It’s an actual debate with pushback, not a one-way webinar. https://tyde.virginia.edu/livestream-odgers-haidt/

TL;DR

  • Rights do not equal permissiveness. Young people do have rights: they need safety and a say.
  • The science is not ‘phones = epidemic.’ It’s nuanced: risks and opportunities are intertwined and differ by age, context, and child.
  • Think critically: question claims, include young people’s voices, and look at the whole picture, not just fear-led narratives, and encourage young people to do the same.
  • If you’re making family rules, aim for supportive structure, not blanket panic; listen to your child and adjust. And please, demand good evidence from everyone - including best-selling authors.

Note to the Mumsnet team: would you consider inviting Professor Candice Odgers or Professor Sonia Livingstone for a follow-up webinar? Parents deserve to hear a robust alternative view of the evidence.

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Pigeons2025 · 05/09/2025 17:24

I would like to second this request @RhiannonEMumsnet

'would you consider inviting Professor Candice Odgers or Professor Sonia Livingstone for a follow-up webinar? Parents deserve to hear a robust alternative view of the evidence'

I'd also recommend this podcast as a lighter intro to challenging Haidt's rhetoric and our own fears and assumptions:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/if-books-could-kill/id1651876897

(available free on various platforms)

Pigeons2025 · 05/09/2025 17:26

Not sure that worked...the podcast is 'If Books Could Kill' and the episode is 'The Anxious Generation.'

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