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Ex partner refuses to see kids but still trying to control me and them

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Mouse2022 · 13/12/2022 22:29

I have 2 children with my ex partner of 11 years. We broke up over 9 months ago and I have since moved on, because I moved on quicker than even I expected he has it in his head that I cheated which is obviously false. He has not seen the children since the first week of June and one had 2 phone calls to them since. I have taken my children on holiday and alerted him a couple days before due to it being a last minute thing.

He replied only with a sarcastic comment about me previously saying last minute was a bad idea, no objections at all to the holiday itself. Since being away I've had text messages threatening to mess with my holiday claiming I did not get his permission and pardon his language but he "could really f* with me right now". We are only away for 4 nights and it's not the first time he's made a threat to mess with me or tell me that he's going to turn the kids against me.

I have kept all lines of contact open for him and he has chosen not to make contact or when I ask him to he says this is all my fault because I didn't want to be with him anymore.

I'm honestly at the end of my tether and I really don't want to go to a solicitor but I can't have him controlling me like he did for 11 years when I just wanto move on.

Please, I need some advice

OP posts:
Starlightstarbright1 · 23/12/2022 11:55

Don't tell him anything.

Claim maintenance through cms.. no need to speak to him.. He is enjoying playing you.. Even if you had cheated that has nothing to do with seeing the children

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