Live chat with Dr Tanya Byron, Thursday 6 September between 1-2pm

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Hi all
We're delighted to announce that Dr Tanya Byron will be here for an online chat with Mumsnetters this Thursday, 6 September.

Tanya is a practicing consultant in child and adolescent mental health and has two children of her own. Her new parenting book Your Child, Your Way encourages you to really think about the kind of parent you are and the kind you want to be, but mostly to understand your child.

Tanya will be joining us for an hour on Thursday at 1 o'clock, so grab your sarnies, get your questions ready and join us then.

For those of you who have unavoidable lunchtime commitments, we'll let you post your questions in advance here.

Thanks, MNHQ

For the rest of you, we'll see you on the 6th.

ooh, yes, tell us, tell us

Hello. If you manage to answer it....... I'd like to know how to get Twin 1 (girl) to allow Twin 2 (boy) speak and how to encourage his speech. He currently speaks in a tiny voice. Oh and if you could just keep them till they stop being wee weapons of mass destruction... that would be lovely!

ooh, yes please T

(am jealous of your clothes, looks, the whole kit & caboodle to, fawn fawn, lol)

Welcome - You can say/ talk about whatever you like, you're Dr Tanya!

Hello Dr T

Hello Dr T, welcome to MN

So. In the House of TT's I had a stylist (...) who bought clothes for me - some I loved, others I despised (a rather unpleasant beige polo neck/ cardi combo comes to mind...). I also had ( and still have) a make up artist, lovely Lisa M who would do my makeup when I arrived at the House at 6 am and refresh it through the day. As the week and series progressed and we would all be getting exhausted (our hours were approx 16 per day) Lisa and I would become hysterical and she would just layer on more and more until I ended on fridays usually looking like a drag queen and unable to open my eyes from the weight of my lashes...most clothes from the highstreet and always excellent gripper knickers to keep the post 2 baby stomach in (this is for lady who commented on my pants earlier today!!)

Hello Dr Tanya.

Hi Dr. Tanya, I'd love to know what you would advise for moving a 16 month old, who has previously been co-sleeping, to her own room. She has eczema so she is often itchy and uncomfortable at night and we ended up having her sleep with us so everyone could get some sleep. Now though she is getting bigger and it is no longer working for us. Thanks

Rushed to get here on time, leaving dh to deal with toddler meal tantrum, what an excuse to cut and run! dh thinks I'm getting advice on ds1...little does he know it's make up tips

hello dr tanya and welcome to MN.

may i ask which areas of parenting you have found hardest with your own children? do you ever find yourself thinking "if only i could follow my own advice on this issue..."

oh if only we could all have a stylist and make up artist to hand..I darent look in the mirror..lol

hello Dr Tanya

Can I ask how do I get my near 4yr old to sleep through? He doesnt get out of bed but he screams and screams despite a night light, reassurance, reward charts etc. He is fully awake and aware so it isnt night terrors.

Gripper knickers sound pretty hard-core.

I just thought of a question; you might not have time to answer it, but what do you think of Alfie Kohn?

what are gripper pants?

Anyway more serious now. My new book is out today (YOUR CHILD...YOUR WAY)- plug plug! I just want to explain a bit why I wrote it because it will help with our chat. I think now there are too many 'parenting experts' around (me being one of them) and an overload of info for parents which leaves many parents feeling confused and less expert in raising their child. I see this in the parents in my weekly clinic. I think we have to get back to a point where we feel the most empowered in raising our kids and don't feel we need to defer to an 'expert' or a book etc. So - I have read how many of you have offered advice to others in this thread - really good advice, I loved the how to get kids to share tip - and so I don't want to just do a Q & A she's the expert type thing here today but more think more broadly about why we often know what we want to do with our kids, what we know will be effective, but can't.

Hello Dr T

I have a question, well lots really, about dealing with a 2.5 year old, who is like houdini with any harness, who runs away constantly, climbs anything and everything and is generally a handful.

He has, from birth, kicked and fought at every nappy change. This has morphed into getting dressed and undressed too. Bribery doesnt work.

Praise doesnt work.

Distraction may or may not work.

Every single thing is a battle and he thinks it is funny.

He even knows he is being 'naughty', but feels compelled to continue anyway.

Tether - end of reached a LONG time ago.

Help?

Hi Dr T I know I've posted one question already but I have another one hope you can advise.

DD1 is 3.1 yo she started potty training at 2 on her own request, it wa a very long hard slog and only now would I say she is potty trained. The thing is she wees far more than any child her age she has just started nursery and they have commented on it too. She drinks a lot but not excessively, in nappies she was a heavy wetter too. The other thing is that she will wet her pants at least 3 times a day i.e. she will not make it to the toilet on time and will have a drip if that makes sense. She is still in night nappies no way ready to come out as they are sodden in the morning.

So my question is do you think I need to take her to my GP and have a word or it she just a heavy wetter and the drip thing will pass.

TIA

hi dr t

mst say after reading your book and watching you on the tv i find you most amusing and down to earth.

See you've shot yourself in the foot there Dr T mentioning your gripper knickers, we're an easily side tracked bunch when it comes to hiding post baby tummies