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Sarah Brown joining us for live webchat Tues 8 March, 1-2pm

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RachelMumsnet · 03/03/2011 11:58

Sarah Brown is joining us for a live webchat on her second visit to Mumsnet HQ on Tuesday 8 March between 1pm and 2pm. Sarah's memoir of Downing Street, Behind the Black Door, is out on 3 March and promises to share the secrets of living behind the most famous front door in the world and what it's like to be an ordinary woman, wife and mother in extraordinary circumstances.

Sarah last visited MNHQ back in February 2010 when she was still living at Number 10. We celebrated a Big Night In in aid of the charity founded by Sarah, PiggyBankKids. We're delighted to be welcoming her back, paticularly as the webchat coincides with International Women's Day and Sarah is known for her advocacy of issues around maternal mortality and women's equality.

Join us next Tuesday lunchtime but, as usual, if you're unable to join us, do post a question on this thread that we'll put to Sarah on the day. Everyone who joins in the discussion will be entered into a draw to win one of five signed copies of Sarah's biography Behind the Black Door.

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SarahBrownUK · 08/03/2011 13:37

@nursecuppy

My dilemma is my Grandson Jack who is 11 Months old was born with Cystic Hygroma. Following appointments with a Consultant and Surgeon at Newcastle upon Tyne Royal Victoria Infirmary we were told Jack would have an MRI Scan at 12 Months old, we have now been informed Jack will not be seen until July. It is horrendous enough that Jack was born with this condition, yet we are struggling to receive treatment for him. This needs highlighting and we need desperatley need help. Thanking you in great anticipation

@mammysboy

Thank you nursecuppy, aka my mum! Question for Sarah on the topic of my baby boy, Jack's, medical condition...

As mentioned above, my son has a rare condition called Cystic Hygroma - this affects the left side of Jack's face and neck. As most first time mums-to-be, I was careful throughout my pregnancy and did all I could to make sure my baby arrived safe and sound. I loved being pregnant, it was complication free and all ultrasound scans showed a 'normal', healthy baby, growing at the correct rate.

We were so excited and couldnt wait for our little one to arrive. However, when Jack was born we were devastated to find something wasnt quite right. It was from this point the confusion began; our Midwife was fantastic but had no idea what the swelling was, the Obstetrician thought it was a blocked saliva gland, the Pediatric Nurse was clueless and the Pediatric Consultant was again unsure and told us Jack would be scanned the next day.

The next day arrived and we were told we'd actually have to go home and wait for a ultrasound scan appointment. I know you've sadly had more than your share of grief and worry in this area, so you'll be able to imagine how hard it was waiting for 6 weeks to find out for sure what was wrong with our new baby.

Jack's condition was officially labelled, but this lead to other issues. Cystic Hygroma is a largely unknown condition, meaning most medical staff I've come into contact with since having Jack, had not witnessed this condition before. They include; Health Visitors, Midwives, GPs, Doctors in NHS walk-in centres, A&E Doctors plus staff on the maternity ward.

I find myself constantly informing healthcare professionals of the condition, yet most of my knowledge is internet-research based and to be honest, a lot of the info is conflicting and in difficult to decipher, medical paper format.

We were eventually given an appointment with a Cleft Lip Surgeon (no specialist in our area). We met the Surgeon with an open mind, only to find him unprepared for our questions and reluctant to talk openly about his experience. He stressed the importance of an MRI scan - we cant know the extent of the problem or know how to proceed without it. We were told an MRI would be arranged when Jack was one year old. Jack is One on the 28th of March and we're still awaiting the appointment.

This is made all the more frustrating by the fact that a programme called Childrens Hospital was aired on ITV last week, showing an experienced surgeon based in Manchester advising parents of a child with Cystic Hygroma that an early operation (at 6 months) was the best option - hopefully stopping the cyst before it grows any further both internally and externally.

My question to you Sarah, is how do I get my baby in front of a surgeon with relevant experience, and is there any government/charity funds available to help with travel/overnight stays, should Jack need to be treated outside the area?

Many thanks!

I would really encourage you to go back to your MP ? that?s what they are there for. All best wishes to you and Jack and I hope this resolves itself happily.

HereMeRoar · 08/03/2011 13:38
painterlyswoosh · 08/03/2011 13:40

ooh and I know I'm being greedy with questions here but who did you get on with best out of the G20 wives in 2009? Who do you think does a good job of their role? Would you stay in contact with any of them? there's no nosy emoticon, but I think i need one Grin

Imamumnotaseamstress · 08/03/2011 13:41

Hi Sarah
Im currently an expat - due to return to the UK later this year. What do you believe the best part of living in the UK is? Frankly watching the news makes it seem like a depressing prospect!
:(

HereMeRoar · 08/03/2011 13:41

Am I too late to ask a question?

I hope not, so here goes anyway. I have never been a member of a political party and never voted labour. I am so angry about what the coalition Govt is doing in relation to Surestart, and especially breastfeeding support (amongst other things) that I am considering joining the labour party. But, I don't know if my ideas really fit with it, or what I think about trade unions, who seem v influential. Other than looking at the website how can I find out more or can you persuade me?

Thanks Smile & apologies if this is off topic!

Highlander · 08/03/2011 13:43

nursecuppy - contact your consultant's secretary. Your consultant will have referred you to radiology for an MRI, but he has nothing to do with the booking. If he requested an urgent MRI and it's not being done, he'll want to know ASAP.

SarahBrownUK · 08/03/2011 13:46

@Imamumnotaseamstress

Hi Sarah
Im currently an expat - due to return to the UK later this year. What do you believe the best part of living in the UK is? Frankly watching the news makes it seem like a depressing prospect!
:(

The British people of course! Our cultural life is amazing - everybody from David Tennant to Joan Armatrading to Sir Ian McKellan to JK Rowling to Carol Ann Duffy. And obviously I will always always love and defend our brilliant NHS. Even the British weather is looking ok at the moment.

SarahBrownUK · 08/03/2011 13:47

@jugglingjo

I'm quite interested to read it myself !

Also, I've thought about writing a book, perhaps on parenting more than one child ( as on another thread some of us thought there was a gap in the market on this subject )

How did you find writing a book ?
Do you have any tips ?

I found good tips on writing books hard to come by when I was settling down to do mine (but I do recount in mine the tale of my brother, not recognising JK Rowling who had introduced herself modestly as ?Jo, a writer?, dispending advice to her on how to get published!!). But I found the key things, in no particular order, to be
-Have a clear idea what you want to say before you start (in my case this was easy as I was publishing a diary, so what I wanted to say was already in my notebooks. But I know from novelist friends that they tend to start with a sketch of the whole book before they type a single sentence)
-Think about how long it will take you ? and then allocate yourself AT LEAST double that amount of time
-Square off the DP/ DH in advance ? if you?re going to devote your life to something, the other people in your life need to put it top of their priority list too
-Research about all the other things that happen after the writing ? I had no idea how long it would take to finalise covers, page settings, jacket descriptions etc etc etc ? I wish I?d been planning in time for that from the start!

SarahBrownUK · 08/03/2011 13:49

@frecklyspeckly

Hello Sarah -

Are you actually happier now Sarah than when Gordon was in office? (you seem so)

If you had your time again, knowing what you know now, would you try and persuade Gordon not to go for leadership?

Do you regret having Piers Morgan around for tea, and were you very embarassed when your children said he was horrible (or words to that effect!)so funny!

sorry, also shamefully ignoring one question rule!

I'm sure you'll understand we wanted a different outcome from the election but both Gordon and I are still just as involved now with the campaigns and issues that were important to us then - education for all, web access for all and maternal and family health - and we're as busy as ever.

I've always known Gordon as a politician and a public servant so oI have no regrets about choosing a political life and of course he's still the local MP in Kirkcaldy and Cowdenbeath.

And Piers Morgan is a friend and is always fun to have round for tea - little people will say whatever they think Wink We just saw him for dinner in Washington DC where he's launching a new chat show - and he's as ebullient as ever and managed to talk over both Alan Greenspan and the lovely Matt Morrison from Glee at the same time.

SarahBrownUK · 08/03/2011 13:51

@HereMeRoar

Am I too late to ask a question?

I hope not, so here goes anyway. I have never been a member of a political party and never voted labour. I am so angry about what the coalition Govt is doing in relation to Surestart, and especially breastfeeding support (amongst other things) that I am considering joining the labour party. But, I don't know if my ideas really fit with it, or what I think about trade unions, who seem v influential. Other than looking at the website how can I find out more or can you persuade me?

Thanks Smile & apologies if this is off topic!

Everybody is welcome in the Labour Party and we've had thousands and thousands of new members in recent months. Of course some are trade unionists, some are charity workers, some are Mums and Dads, some are students, some are from business - it's a whole massive mix of people who believe in fairness and that we achieve most when we work together. Do take a look at the website, but also go along to local meetings - I'm sure you'll find many people, like you, who have joined because they have their own personal passion. There's also a special network for women in the party - the Labour Women's Network. Sorry to be so party political - but you did ask!

HereMeRoar · 08/03/2011 13:54

Thank you Smile. Off to google the Labour Women's Network...

SarahBrownUK · 08/03/2011 13:55

@painterlyswoosh

ooh and I know I'm being greedy with questions here but who did you get on with best out of the G20 wives in 2009? Who do you think does a good job of their role? Would you stay in contact with any of them? there's no nosy emoticon, but I think i need one Grin

I saw Carla in November for supper and her commitment with HIV/AIDS overlaps with my work on maternal health so of course we stay in touch on that. All of the spouses who came to London are such interesting accomplished women I'm sure I'll find ways to overlap with a number of them in the months and years ahead. The UN Secretary-General's wife, Mrs Ban, is a special friend and has always been very supportive to me.

OliviaMumsnet · 08/03/2011 13:55

Just waving hello from maternity leave Sarah! massive fan here
Grin

SarahBrownUK · 08/03/2011 13:55

@MmeLindt

Sarah
Welcome back to MN.

It must have been an adjustment for your children, leaving London to go and live in Scotland. I am an expat trailing spouse so we do this every 4 or 5 years.

Was there anything that helped your children adjust to the move, and is there anything that you and they particularly miss of your time in Downing St?

MmeLindt ? the Scottish house has always been the main family home so the boys had all their favourite familiar things there anyway but the kids were well used to travelling. I imagine it can be quite tough starting somewhere new and making new friends.

SarahBrownUK · 08/03/2011 13:56

@DuckyDoo

Hi Sarah, on this centenary celebration of International Women?s Day, which will see widespread celebration of female empowerment, there are still millions, if not billions, of women who do not benefit much, if at all, from education and training or scientific and technological advances. It is a shocking fact that even in 2011 six out of ten of the world?s poorest people are women. Many women are still disempowered and simply getting pregnant can be the most dangerous thing she can do. If you could do one thing to improve the lot of the world?s women, what would you do? Thank you!

Picking just one intervention that would make all the different to the world?s women is such a tough thing to do because all the issues are connected. The brilliant book Half the Sky goes through, in remorseless detail, just how many different types of injustice woman are subjected to and how each one can only be defeated by one thing ? the victory of feminism. So I guess if I had to pick just one thing, it would be really really really early education efforts? of boys as well as girls ? that made them understand feminism and its implications and encouraged them to be proud to use that f word.

RachelMumsnet · 08/03/2011 13:59

That brings us to the end of the hour. Thanks so much to Sarah and to everyone who joined us this lunchtime and sent in answers in advance. We'll be announcing the 5 winners of the signed books shortly. Thanks again Sarah.

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SarahBrownUK · 08/03/2011 13:59

It's been great being back at MN Towers - honoured to be with you as we celebrate the 100th Anniversary of International Women's Day. So much has changed for women in the last century but there's still soooooooooooo much more to do. Onwards and Upwards and hope to see you again soon.

Sarah X

ohmeohmy · 08/03/2011 14:00

ordered Half the Sky. Thanks Sarah. Bye

DuckyDoo · 08/03/2011 14:02

Thanks Sarah! I bought Half the Sky yesterday so will definitely read it! Good luck with everything!

Willabywallaby · 08/03/2011 14:02

Wow! That was a lot of questions answered in the last few minutes!

MrsKwazii · 08/03/2011 14:20

Damn, missed the chat. Am disappointed that Sarah didn't answer my question about some employers wanting to ask women at interview if they're planning on having children - and what more can be done by legislators, opinion formers and us to tackle this inequality - especially as women's equality is flagged up as an area of special interest in the OP.

I'd have thought this was even more relevant as it's International Women's Day. Would you be able to forward the Q on please MNHQ?

jonicomelately · 08/03/2011 14:37

Thank you Sarah for answering my question and for wishing DS2 a happy birthday.

You are one classy lady Smile

FourFortyFour · 08/03/2011 19:32

Damn, I missed it.

I have read the serialisation of your book and would have loved the chance to win a full copy.

ForkfulOfTabouleh · 08/03/2011 21:18

Sarah - I love that you said So I guess if I had to pick just one thing, it would be really really really early education efforts? of boys as well as girls ? that made them understand feminism and its implications and encouraged them to be proud to use that f word.

I really hope that you lurk in the MN Feminist section.Wink

angelfee · 08/03/2011 22:23

Thank you for answering the Alpha-1 Antitrypsin Deficiency awareness issue. I appreciate your time with this. Best wishes

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