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Biggest cultural shock you have come across?

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hibbledobble · 08/05/2017 14:11

What have you encountered while travelling that was your biggest cultural shock?

I'll go first: in Poland I saw families/extended families living 10+ in a 2 bedroom home. The concept of having a bedroom or even a bed to oneself is seemingly unheard of. Everyone sleeps in different beds each night, and beds are often shared. Having visitors in this set up is no problem either: everyone just rearranges. Water also came from Wells, lots of homes had no bathrooms. Ovens were these metal beasts that were plugged into the mains.

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PhilomenaCatLover · 08/05/2017 18:33

Also how drinking outside is banned in parts of the US I've visited (the coasts). I find it strange not to be able to take a bottle of cold white wine to the park on a sunny summer day for a picnic!

And another one seconding the toilet-paper culture shock when I first moved to the UK and realised people don't use water to clean up after doing a poo. (Where I come from we'd use a handheld water faucet or a mug to clean up, but of course means you usually only go in your own home.)

Love this thread btw.

IllBeAtTheSpa · 08/05/2017 18:41

I know pp have said this but south africa
Driving past the shanty towns then ending up at the V&A

Deploycharitygoats · 08/05/2017 18:41

How to check there are no leaks coming from the gas canister powering your stove (Jordan): set fire to a tissue and wave around all the connection points. If nothing explodes, you're good.

ShockShockShock

triedandrusted · 08/05/2017 18:43

While working out in Singapore, for a very wealthy company, I was shocked that there was a sign on the back of the door of each of the ladies' loos (western style sit down loos) which said "Please do not stand on the loo seats". Like someone else upthread found, people didn't like to sit on loos when they'd been brought up to squat. Fair enough - maybe they found it unhygienic, but could they not have hovered like I do when I don't like the look of a loo seat? Grin

EBearhug · 08/05/2017 18:46

Having grown up in a rural place without mains sewage, I remember one of the exciting things about going to uni was seeing a Dynorod van, and realising towns are places where you don't have to rod your own drains. (Have also had to fetch water home in the UK, when the borehole failed.) Wasn't so happy about having to learn to use gas cookers, though.

I think my upbringing is why I haven't had such a culture shock when travelling to some places. I was laughed at on a yoga retreat, where I'd been told the accommodation was basic, came out saying, "but it's really posh! There's water and electricity!" We didn't have to empty the compost loos ourselves, either. My understanding of basic is more basic than others have, it seems.

choli · 08/05/2017 18:51

How very friendly and open people are in the US compared to the UK - at least on the east coast, I have never lived in the south.

EnidButton · 08/05/2017 18:54

MsGame were you in New York?

caoraich · 08/05/2017 18:58

This is quite Blush

I consider myself pretty well-travelled. Had been to 5 continents by the time I was 20 etc. However at age 21 I was sent on student placement for a month to a city in England. I hadn't been south of the border other than to change planes since I was a kid.

I arrived on a Sunday evening and decided to do my usual weekly supermarket shop, googled the local 24hr tesco and arrived at 9pm to find it closed! I was genuinely astounded, and was halfway through emailing a complaint to HQ about false advertising before my new roommate informed me that in fact they all close on Sundays in England! It's silly but I guess when somewhere is nearby you don't think there will be differences in how you go about your life so don't bother investing in
The Lonely Planet Guide to Middlesborough etc 😂

WetsTheFinger · 08/05/2017 19:05

Moving to England from Tel Aviv was a massive culture shock. I first lived in Cambridge for university and now in Northumberland and the rigidness that rules and social niceties had to be followed with was really stifling for a while. I would do things like shout or whistle across the street to stop a bus, and be stared at like an alien! Everyone is so quiet and introverted here. If you spoke to someone they would eye you suspiciously. I've learnt now!

WetsTheFinger · 08/05/2017 19:06

Oh and as previously mentioned, the racism in Australia. I found it a very unpleasant community on the whole.

Iamastonished · 08/05/2017 19:17

"but could they not have hovered like I do"

FGS just use some loo roll to wipe the seat and sit down. I hate hoverers who pee on the loo seat.

"I would do things like shout or whistle across the street to stop a bus"

You would be very lucky that the driver didn't give you the finger.

caoraich are there no Sunday trading restrictions in Scotland?

Deploycharitygoats · 08/05/2017 19:22

The language of car horns.

One short beep: I am approaching a junction and can't be bothered to slow down. Don't say I didn't warn you I was there.

Two short beeps: I am a taxi, do you want a ride?

One long beep: fuuuuuck you (the longer the beep, the angrier the driver)

BuzzKillington · 08/05/2017 19:28

India - first of all the noise, the smell and general chaos of Delhi.

Then the begging, being chased by people with disfigurements and elephantiasis for money, snake charmers and bears being made to dance (this was 20 years ago - I hope it doesn't still go on). It was all shocking.

RebelandaStunner · 08/05/2017 19:30

Empty booby trapped hotels in Croatia and bullet holes everywhere.
The 'houses' in Jamaica- shacks made of bits of corrugated plastic and the like.
Lack of full sets of teeth on fairly young people- lots of places- Turkey was one.

RufusTheRenegadeReindeer · 08/05/2017 19:32

India also a long time ago

Walking into the airport arrival hall and everyone yelling at us Shock

Being stared at constantly

While families on mopeds

Families sleeping on mini roundabouts

And a bloody huge rat running across the floor of the cafe...and no one minding!!

Really eye opening!!

RufusTheRenegadeReindeer · 08/05/2017 19:33

Whole not while!!

MiddlingMum · 08/05/2017 19:36

A sort of reverse culture shock: coming from a busy UK university city where you lock your bike the second you get off it. The realisation that on a remote Scottish island, you can leave your bike unlocked at the side of the road, go off and climb a mountain or two, and it will still be there when you get back, luggage and all.

BertieBotts · 08/05/2017 19:42

This doesn't really count since it's only online I've come across it but I was really shocked and quite upset by the routine nature of infant circumcision in America when I first found out about it. I just couldn't understand why people were so blasé about the idea of something being cut off their newborn. If it was any other surgery, people would be filled with anxiety and worry but this is as normal to many people as vaccination, and I can't get my head around it. It also baffles me that insurance providers cover it and modern doctors recommend it when there's so little evidence that it has any benefits. You can also add declawing cats and removing the voiceboxes of dogs who are considered nuisance barkers to this alarming list.

From living in Germany, a few things. Yes to whole kindergartens full of children being taken off on trips just randomly with no mention to parents and none of the safeguarding/risk assessment you'd get in the UK. They are also really relaxed about small children being around open fires to a weird extent. I also a couple of times went to pick up DS and his friend would follow me and the staff would cheerfully say "Oh are you going with X today?" Confused Actually, that did stop when management changed but it was slightly alarming! Now DS is at primary school, and his school site is in the town centre and is completely open with a fence only on two sides, and only really to establish the boundary. Anybody can walk in and any child could wander out. Whenever I go in to pick him up even outside of normal start/finish times I never get questioned about who I am or what I want unless I look lost.

Children in public often seem to have their volume control set to a significantly higher level than British children. I think this is partially because they are often allowed out on their own from about 7 and from about 8 or 9 they travel in groups with no adults present commonly, but even when you see really little children with their parents or grandchildren the children speak in ear splitting tones (as they do) but they don't get told to shh or keep their voice down because the whole carriage doesn't want to hear their conversation Confused Schools and kindergartens here also tend to use public transport instead of hiring their own minibus or coach, so you sometimes get on during the day and a carriage and a half is full of bickering/excitedly shouting children Hmm oh and they have the most ENORMOUS school bags which have a tendency to bash into everything when they turn around (and you have to buy the stupid bags which cost hundreds of euros too).

Getting work as an English teacher on the basis of being a native speaker and just being expected to randomly teach groups of children unsupervised with no police background check and no training to teach children or safeguarding training. These groups are often held at crap times so the children are tired, bored of school, hungry and hence awfully behaved but there is often no higher authority to report behaviour to or behaviour management system in place. (I think this is far more to do with a culture of poor practices in the TEFL industry than any particular country, to be fair, but still.)

Also not being able to buy simple painkillers or other off the shelf remedies (e.g. for cystitis, worms, thrush) in ordinary shops and a general perception that such a practice would be horribly dangerous to health.

BarbaraofSeville · 08/05/2017 19:43

Middling I'm also another UK city dweller indoctrinated with the 'leave it, lock it or lose it' mantra so I was surprised to see that people abandon bikes all over the place in Denmark.

It seems to be the norm to ride your bike to the bus stop, leave it leant unlocked against a fence, or dumped in a nearby ditch, to get the bus somewhere and then return later to find it still there Shock.

caoraich I wondered how long it would be before someone mentioned the difference between Sunday opening hours in supermarkets across the UK.

caoraich · 08/05/2017 19:44

astonished nope! Though I think people in retail can refuse to work Sundays. I had a lovely job doing weekend nights in asda at one point. Sundays were pretty dead after 10pm... until the police came in for their sandwiches at 2am shortly followed by pub/club kicking-out-time seekers of random snacks Grin
I was genuinely astounded that 24/7 opening isn't.

mommybunny · 08/05/2017 19:57

Here's a shock I got when I moved to the UK - not being able to blow-dry my hair in the bathroom anymore! What a pain! The electricity voltage is supposed to be the same as on the Continent, but plug sockets are allowed there in bathrooms. Drives me nuts.

EsmesBees · 08/05/2017 19:57

Public defecation in Egypt. Plus the sight of a long dead horse in the middle of a duel carriageway. People were just driving round it.

Sadly, houses in multiple occupation are becoming more and more commonplace in London. The 2 up 2 down a few doors down from our old place had two families living inside, and two more blokes living in the shed. I've also seen what appears to be the informal fostering of children to allow their parents to work. It's like going back in time.

BoffinMum · 08/05/2017 20:00

In Beijing at the Imperial Palace, a man held a kid of about four up in the air next to us while we were sitting on a bench and allowed her to wee all over the ground right there, not even behind a tree or in a public toilet (I believe there were some). Loads of wee, just like that. Right near us.

MaQueen · 08/05/2017 20:01

Our best friends are ex-pats, and they have servants. Just can't get used to it at all. Despite repeated friendly requests not to, their maid insisted on calling me 'Miss MaQueen'.

70ontheinside · 08/05/2017 20:02

My flight being delayed for 2 days when at a conference in the US and realising that I was stranded in a dry city Shock

Dh's face when I explained that a company outing to the local swimming pool with saunas would most definitely not be a good idea unless he wanted to see all of his new German colleagues naked. Grin

Dh discovering Thüringer Mett (similar to steak tartare).

Me discovering pork scratching Shock

Huge culture shock when a relative here in the U.K. died and nothing was done as I expected it to be done. Makes you realise how ritualised death and grief is. I have always taken cultural differences in good humour, but that really threw me.