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Aibu over lady using my parking spaces.

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Nannyplum2015 · 14/02/2015 18:58

We live in a housing estate and each house or flat has one or two spaces allocated to them. Most of the spaces are directly outside our houses except a few that are round the side that have garages. The spaces aren't numbered but everyone seems to know who's is whose. There's a new neighbour that has moved in next door to me (a corner house) and has a garage parking space round the back of her house, however she uses both my spaces as she parks in the middle of them. It's quite annoying when there's nowhere else to park as you have to park further down the road.

I went over today and introduced myself and poilitley told her the spaces were mine and hers was round the back but she was welcome to use our other space when we don't have guests but could she park to one side so I can fit my car next to hers. She looked at me with a blank expression, said no and shut the door on me! What do I do now!? I just stood there for a moment open mouthed and then went home.

Now I'm not sure if she has mobility problems as she's not exactly nimble anymore (about 65) but I am shocked at her one word reply!

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TendonQueen · 15/02/2015 11:53

She's the one in the wrong here. You shouldn't feel you can't go and ask. Go over and be straightforward. 'You're in my parking space. Move your car, please' (please is just for ritual politeness)

EnlightenedOwl · 15/02/2015 11:54

You need to get her to move - now

Land Registry - get your deeds here online.

www.uklrs.co.uk/landregistry/?gclid=CL_qrPHx48MCFe7MtAod7SYA2Q

takes minutes costs little. Post a copy through her door setting out the position. She needs to know you mean business

Blu · 15/02/2015 12:31

I can see that it would be best to have something that shows definitely that the spaces are yours - and the Estate Manager should be able to provide that, too.

But really, you don't need to be 'brave' to ask people politely but firmly not to park on land that is yours.

"Hello, me again, how are you? I see that your car is parked in my space again, could you move it please?" "maybe you didn't realise the situation, but as you can see from this paper here, those spaces do actually belong to us, they are our land". Ask if there is a specific reason she uses your spaces.

Pipbin · 15/02/2015 12:35

I still say dig a big hole filled with spikes then cover it in fabric so she can't see it. Problem solved.

APlaceInTheWinter · 15/02/2015 12:50

Ask the Estate Manager to speak to her. It may be a genuine misunderstanding although she was obviously rude .

However we had a similar misunderstanding in one development where we lived. One owner had a designated space that showed on their deeds. Everyone else had deeds that showed all the spaces as being communal and not allocated. The person with the allocated space thought everyone else was being rude but they had no idea her deeds were different from everyone else's.

Deeds should show who owns which space but if the initial split of the deed is managed badly then it doesn't always happen. Narky neighbour might have thought you just considered those spaces your's and not that legally they are your spaces.

The Estate Manager can explain the situation to her and see if there is any conflict in the deeds. She obviously doesn't care if you thought she was rude but she might need the help of the Estate Manager in the future so may be more amenable to him. Also, ask the Estate Manager to put your number on your spaces. It makes it much easier for everyone.

MimiSunshine · 15/02/2015 12:54

Come on OP stop being a doormat (that goes for your DH too). She's parked on your property and you are inconvenienced, what sway do you think the Estate Manager will have over her?
She's no more likely to listen to them than she is you, go back around, knock on the door and let her know she is parked on your property, and needs to please remove her car and that you don't want to fall out clearly she isn't bothered but if it happens again you will have to report it as an abandoned vehicle.

SoupDragon · 15/02/2015 12:58

Put an A4 (at least) sign on her windscreen telling her not to park there again. Stick it on with vaseline.

tobysmum77 · 15/02/2015 13:02

not that nimble, she's about 65 hahaha my mum would be Angry at that comment Grin .

OP she doesnt sound like someone you are anyone is going to enjoy living next door to. So you need to start as you mean to go on unfortunately.

Redglitter · 15/02/2015 13:12

I don't understand why you're both so scared to go chap her door. She's on your property!! What do you think she's going to do if you go to the door. I'm damn sure I wouldn't be waiting for her to go out to rush into my parking space.

EnlightenedOwl · 15/02/2015 14:22

You don't have to be rude but you do need to be assertive. I've had this problem myself, someone nearby who doesn't have a drive parked across my drive and blocked it, couldn't be arsed parking in their allocated parking spot as its a little way down the street. They were quite shocked when I asked them to move as I would like the privilege of using my drive, not my problem they don't have one. I wasn't rude but I was assertive. Never had a problem since.

Original poster
Nannyplum2015 · 15/02/2015 14:31

Ok her car is still there, can someone tell me what to say to her?! I'm going out to drop something to my friend and will be back in 20 mins.

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SoupDragon · 15/02/2015 14:35

"Get yo fat ass outta my space, biatch" or something like that.

EnlightenedOwl · 15/02/2015 14:36

Simply knock on and say really sorry but you need to move your car, your spaces are xxx and these are mine and I need to use them. Don't make concessions like saying you can park in one if you need it just tell her to move it now. If she refuses tell her you've no choice but you will have to have her car towed. She'll get that!

forago · 15/02/2015 14:40

just knocknon the doorvand say oh hi can you move your car out if my space please as you're inconveniencing me and don't park there again please, just speak really loud over her if she tries to protest and stand there expectently until she goes to get her keys. say well come on then, what are you waiting for? if she doesn't move.

themummyonthebus · 15/02/2015 14:47

^^ What they said. And if she slams the door in your face again then you lean on the door bell until she comes out and moves her car. And you tell her next time you'll just get it towed, won't bother to go through this hassle each time.

Rrraah this is giving me the rage, not only your spaces but using up two because she doesn't even know how to park properly probably

fluffyraggies · 15/02/2015 14:49

''I've asked you nicely, now i'm telling you to get your car out of my space''

is what i'd say. She's obviously a hard faced cow - fight fire with fire.

Then post the deeds through. Then post the Estate Manager through Grin

EnlightenedOwl · 15/02/2015 14:57

That's it it would be annoying enough if she was in one space but straddling the spaces thereby taking up two is taking the pee. I'd be seriously enraged by this.

Original poster
Nannyplum2015 · 15/02/2015 14:59

Ok I knocked (repeatedly!) on the door and no answer. Her car is still in my space so I'm presuming she's in but choosing not to answer.

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fluffyraggies · 15/02/2015 15:02

Oh my god. My blood pressure reading this! Angry

MooMaid · 15/02/2015 15:03

Rude bint, I hate parking issues. As PP have said management company first thing tomorrow to get this sorted!

Hissy · 15/02/2015 15:04

Seriously!?

Get over there and knock on the door

"You need to move your car out of my space now, I've asked you already and now you need to move it"

EnlightenedOwl · 15/02/2015 15:05

put a letter through giving her a strict timeline to move it before you take enforcement action. Apparently, and I didn't know this, this can constitute anti-social behaviour. You can threaten her with calling the police on these grounds. Doesn't mean you're going to do it.

fluffyraggies · 15/02/2015 15:08

WHEN you do get your spaces back OP, please leave something in the middle of them so that she can't easily park back there again. A bike (old one from the tip?), a cone, a couple of breeze blocks? Just for the short term.

And to see if she will actually have the cheek, or be bothered, to get out and move it.

Lweji · 15/02/2015 15:10

Or you could ring a garage and arrange for it to be towed to the middle of the road.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 15/02/2015 15:12

If you don't move your car I'm having it towed. This is your final warning.

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