OK, for me DLA:
~helps me get to my gp, consultant and physio appointments. I often can't drive due to medication side effects so it pays for taxis.
~Pays for me to go swimming/gentle gym workout. This is not about having a bit of fun exercising, it's about trying to slow down the disease which is killing off my lungs more and more, and I will try anything to do this. My specialist has told me to exercise where I can because it may slow down the scarring. It cannot be reversed, but occasionally can be slowed or even halted. I would gladly give up my DLA if exercise ever 'made me better'.
~means I can buy specialist bedding etc which helps me cope better with my condition
~means I don't worry so much about childcare when I am in hospital/too ill to get them from school etc
~the passport to a blue badge has meant that I can get out far more often on worse days, not worrying about not being able to get back to the car as it is too far to walk to etc, and feeling more confident about getting to places
~passport to Railcard means I can afford to travel more by train, see above as in not always able to drive, especially long distances.
~means I can pay for a carer if dh is away when I need one without worrying
~gas bill. If I don't have the heating on when it's cold I get very ill, very quickly.
~electricity bill. Things like the tumble dryer means no damp washing which is again a trigger for my condition. The dishwasher means I can get more rest. I sometimes have very few 'spoons' and washing up would be impossible for me a lot of days.
~prescription pre-payment. Yes even with a chronic degenerative illness I have to pray prescription charges
~it's a passport to higher WTC/CTC. Because I can't work, without it we would struggle greatly, dh earns a below average salary. I can't get IB because I haven't earned enough stamp recently despite teaching for years and then being a SAHM
I am scared at the thought of how we would cope. Who on earth would employ someone who was off sick most weeks, and who would have little strength for any consistent work? It's so worrying.
It's bad enough being so ill, but worrying about how we will manage in the future can worsen that. I'm so worried about many of the most vulnerable in our society. I am lucky, I rely so much on dh, but that is by no means always assured, we don't know what may happen. without him I and the dc would be up the proverbial creek.
~we also pay for a cleaner. I can't clean my house anymore. I can sometimes drag the hoover round the downstairs, just. But cleaning seems to make me ill. I know that DLA isn't meant for such things, but having it means we can do this, which in turn means the environment is better for me and I stay more well. I shouldn't have to justify this I guess (sigh), but see DLA as an enabling payment, something which means I can cope better with the disease, something that even means I might be able to improve. I would give anything to not need it, I really would. Does that make any sense?
There's much more, will have a think. HTH :)