Breastfeeding twins - or rather stopping

[TALLULAHBELLE]

Hi - posted this in breastfeeding but wonder if there is a bit of a twin thing at play so maybe someone here will have experience. Have 16 month DTs. Still B/f morning & night & I would like to stop now. My older DD self-weaned not long after her first birthday & went cold turkey without as much as a backward glance. I have been waiting for DT's to so but no sign of stopping yet. DT2 definitely less interested than DT1. I could put her to bed or straight to brekkie in the morning & doubt she'd notice. However DT1 positively demands her b/f. As soon as DT2 sees her sis she wants in on it too. Wonder if should wean DT2 & attempt feed DT1 in secret? Cut them both off? Just keep going until both are ready? Any advice?

Hi I don't have twin experience but I can offer my two penith. How ever you tackle it you'll require another body to help you. Could you give them some cereal before bed then take them up do stories, light out, cuddles and put in bed. You do DT2 and your helper/partner do DT1. There will likely be some prolonged crying, cuddling needed, general hooha but after a week or two I'm sure they'd both be over it. Maybe even less than that or maybe longer.
How does that sound? Hope you get lots more answers.

Thanks bb. Yes DH generally around to help at bedtime. Mornings harder, they can wake pretty early & still don't sleep through so I am always shattered. DH has to get off to work so it's easiest just to bring them into bed. They obviously see that as a cue to feed & I'm so tired I can't deal with the hysterics so I give in. Well, just answered my own q -need to get my lazy arse out of bed obviously.

I would keep going with the mornings for a bit! Much nicer to be ying in bed breastfeeding at some ungodly hour han up having to entertain toddlers and having to get them breakfast! Wean them at bedtime first definitely!!

Fair point Kathryn. But wonder if they wake earlier for that feed & would maybe just maybe sleep a bit longer if all that was on offer was a weetabix.

So, if I drop the bedtime b/f do I replace it with something? Cup of warm milk for instance? Or just straight to bed?

We replaced evening BF for one twin with cup of warm milk (previously bottle of warm milk). He doesn't actually have much of it, but it seems to settle him and he sleeps through (17 months old now). The other is still BF (long story, he hated bottles) but moving to cup soon.

Hi I have 16 month old twins and the feeding is slowing down now, although same problem: it's probably time to stop but in mornings / evenings it's so much easier! Am solving by taking a 4 day trip with my older children and leaving the twins with my mum. Tomorrow. TRAUMA !!! (for me, sure they'll be fine!) Enjoy your last sleepy snuggly feeds. x

Tallula how is it going? I've been watching your thread as I'm thinking of fully weaning my 13mo DTs. They have the bedtime feed every night and DT1 has pretty much dropped the morning feed now, just an occasional one if she wakes very early. DT2 still has a feed at night, but not usually until about 4am and she doesn't have a morning one, so it's really the morning one earlier IYSWIM. DT1 has now got a lot of teeth and is using them [ouch] plus she isn't really feeding anymore so much as playing which is making me sore from time to time. DT2 is not sleeping very well because of wind, and I'm hoping that dropping the bedtime feed will solve this problem. However, I'm currently paralysed by indecision and fear of the whole thing going wrong and don't know what to do. Be interested to hear what you have decided/decide and any other offerings from those whove been there...

hey, I stopped feeding when mine were younger than yours but I think the principle is the same - just miss one or two feeds cos you're out/busy/whatever and it'll get hard / dried up or something, so next time they feed it's a bit rubbish, offer them somthing they like instead (milk in a beaker/ juice whatever) and they'll start asking for the cup instead.
easy!