My DTS are now 2.5yo b/g and I went solo through the pregnancy, birth and first year and a half with the DTS. Now reunited with a beautiful man from my past who adores me and the twins almost more than I do. He would like to have more children and would like them to be as close in age as possible to the DTS so as not to make them feel like two separate families and also just nice to have them close together in age.
I am not hugely maternal but maybe that is because I went through some very hard times with the DTS on my own and adjusting as a mother is never easy and I feel (perhaps wrongly) that doing it alone is pretty hard.
However, my partner is amazing and I truly think that it would be very sad if he never had a child that was biologically his. I don't "mind" having another baby but its not as if I am jumping up and down to have another one. I also don't want to "just" get the DTS off to school and then be starting all over again with a new baby. Plus I am TERRIFIED of having another set of twins but then I do only know twins and maybe twins would be easier second time around!
My very long winded question is basically, do I dare to have another child and is my fear valid? Is it actually easier to have another child that the twins will also play with and that that child will have fun buddies? How many people have had or have known twin mums that have gone on to have more twins? Would it be so much more fun and rewarding and happy to do it with a partner seeing as I have never been through that initial what I found to be an awful first year and the terror of having another pregnancy with hyperemesis. (I had a previous pregnancy which I lost the baby and had hyperemesis then too so am imagining that hyperemesis third time around is probably likely). My partner is very understanding and says that if I don't want to have more children then he is OK with that as he doesn't want to put pressure on me.
Any advice gratefully received!!!!