Hi again. I can imagine it must have been a shock, I had my scan on the morning of my 30th birthday and I remember very clearly what a shock it was. I'm glad you're feeling more positive today, that's great that the nuchal fold tests were fine and the amount of fluid seems fine too.
My twins spent 4 weeks in SCBU, so arrived home 4 weeks before their due date. It was a really odd experience, but not necessarily a bad one. The hospital I was in has rooms for mothers with babies in SCBU, so I was able to stay in the hospital to be near them. I wasn't able to spend as much time with them as I would have at home, obviously, but on the other hand I did get the chance to recover properly from my section, and myself and DP were able to build up a lot of confidence with the girls before they came home. I tried breastfeeding in the hospital and couldn't get it to work, I think mainly because I was too tense. The hospital did provide an electric pump though and I pumped 6 times a day, though my milk didn't properly come in till we got home.
When I got home I breastfed both for a while but the smaller twin couldn't do it very well, so I fed her expressed milk and breastfed the other twin for about 2 months, ended up switching to purely expressed breast milk for both and am now moving over to formula. However, I'm pretty sure this was due to my own lack of skill/confidence with the babies, and if you've already breastfed one I reckon it'll be much easier (I never managed to tandem feed and in the early days my main problem was having one baby cry while I fed the other, but I think tandem feeding will be easier if you actually know how to feed). I do of course feel enormously inadequate and guilty about my inability to feed, but I'm beginning to think that if it wasn't breastfeeding, I'd be feeling inadequate and guilty about something else!
As these are my first babies, I have no idea what I missed out on, but I do feel I had my full quota of the newborn stage because they seemed so tiny when we got home even though they'd been in hospital for so long. I think they've probably caught up with other babies by now, but they did seem premature rather than just newborn for a few weeks, if you see what I mean.
Fingers firmly crossed for your 16-week scan and in the meantime feel free to ask anything else that occurs to you on the offchance that it came up for me as well.