Calling all parents with twins aged 4 plus!

[BlueEyedMaid]

Hope you don't mind me drawing your attention to this thread - some input would be great. Thank you.

I have ID boys who are 6. I can really identify with what you are going through. I once read that ID boys are the most likely to reduce their mothers to tears. I feel with mine it all stems from wanting me all to themselves, not wanting to share my attention with each other. I have an older son and do not feel I have bonded with the DTs in the same way because of this. Hang on in there- I do feel that mine are gradually improving as they get older, albeit very slowly! Compared to my older DS they seem to be taking longer to mature. I think in a way they hold each other back. I often feel anxious, as with them I never know what I am going to get from one day to the next!

I also think that having them go through the stages of development at the same time quite draining and find that it has made me less tolerant dealing with them.

Ours have just turned 4 and we're going for the star charts!! They get a star for 'helping' ie tidying etc, and a star for sharing, and bonus ones for other things. then if they've got 10 at the end of the week (might up it if they start getting good) they have a treat, eg small toy/ride on roundabout etc. It seems to be really working.

It is very hard. Read in a child development book that this age is meant to be a rehearsal for the teenage years