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poorbuthappy · 12/04/2009 07:31

Had a terrible night with girls...which has resulted in me giving up at 6.30am, feeding and changing both, to wait for the easter bunny to arrive with our chocolate...

However they are currently lying on their playmat, looking at each other and smiling and talking to each other! First time I've really seen it and somehow it makes the memory of the night disappear....gotta love mother nature!

Happy Easter all

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AllotmentMum · 12/04/2009 10:53

I have a twin sister, and its the best thing ever. Its so tough for the parents, but your babies have the best gift ever, each other. We're in our 40s now and live 100 miles from each other, and certainly don't live in each others pockets, but we are always there for each other. I feel so sorry for singletons. I expect that's what your girls were discussing.

jennyroper · 12/04/2009 12:42

allotmentmum
WHAT AN AMAZING THING TO SAY i am parent of twin girls and when i read your post it makes me so happy inside

twinmam · 12/04/2009 14:27

Thanks AllotmentMum and PBH for lovely positive messages. Allotmentmum I often worry that my DDs are losing out as they don't get enough attention, have to wait and share etc, so it's very lovely indeed to have it confirmed that they have 'the best gift ever'. Thank you.

AllotmentMum · 12/04/2009 19:06

All siblings have to share, and its good to know how, and I never felt that I lost out on sharing attention. If anything I needed it less because I had my sister to give me attention (and vice versa). A sibling the same age really understands what you're going through, while a parent can only try.

Only time I felt a bit p**d off was when we were given a birthday card to share by friends and relatives. A shared present I understood, but getting your own card seemed a basic requirement to my sister and I, especially as we got older.

The other thing I would say, which is linked, is remember that twins are two seperate people, not 2 halves of the same, and should be treated as such.

And watch out for the homework sharing when they are older - my sister and I have a complete set of O levels, but only half each. We always split the work down the middle and it really caught us out when we got to the exams!

We decided at 18 that we needed to make the break and become full individuals in our own right, so deliberately went to different colleges at other ends of the country. I cried my eyes out the day I left her, but it was the right decison.

20 years later we live a long way apart but speak and email regularly, and would do anything for each other. Can't imagine life without her.

Your twins have an inbuilt support system, and will never be alone. what more could any girl want? Be glad for them (especially when they are both crying at once and you feel you can't manage . . )

twinmam · 12/04/2009 19:47

Oh there have been a few of those 'I can't manage occasions I can tell you but lovely to know that the positive experience of being a twin has far outweighed the negative, really heartwarming. My girls are only one but already I don't like it when people give them a birthday card to share or call them 'The Twins'. I was very touched when a friend sent them a birthday card each which were even posted separately (tho DH though that was batty!) I know people mean well but once the girls are old enough to be aware of card sharing or being referred to as a unit I think I will have to stop biting my lip and say something! Thanks for sharing your experiences of having a twin sister Allotmentmum It sounds like such a lovely and special thing and makes me feel very privileged to have my two DDs.

frumpygrumpy · 12/04/2009 20:29

I had a great day at the beach with my three children (DD1 and DTs). Its so hard in those days when sleep seems like something you used to know but can never get close to......but now......when I watch my DTs running about the windy beach, being whipped into screams and then watching them curl into each other to watch a film.....its adorable and something you realise parents of only singletons will never experience. Keep wading through the rough bits, there are many more wondrous moments than iffy ones, its just you don't get them until much later.

I still love hearing my DT1 grab DT2 and say "oh, DT2, its nearly our birthday!!

twinmam · 12/04/2009 21:33

Aw frumpy, you've made me cry but in a very nice happy way. Thank you

kathryn2804 · 03/05/2009 23:29

AllotmentMum, it's so nice to hear a twin's perspective. Thanks so much for taking the time to come on here and write your stuff. Lovely

My boys have such an enormous bond, fight like crazy sometimes, but you can just tell if one gets hurt or something, the other gets really upset and frightened. And I found them lying in one bed the other day, one 'reading' the other a story (they're only 4!!) I nearly cried it was so sweet!

MarsLady · 07/05/2009 08:07

Just posting so that I find this again but well said allotmentmum. My DTs are 5 and whenever anyone asks if they should just get them one present to share I say no and I use your very words... they are two separate people who happened to share the same womb at the same time!

Will read properly later, am supposed to be making the sandwiches!

throckenholt · 07/05/2009 08:08
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