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Multiple births

When do you start showing with twins? What is life with twins like? Join the conversation on our Multiple Births forum.

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Just found out pregnant with identical twins, slightly freaking..

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Nellstar · 02/07/2008 11:49

As the subject says, had a 7 week scan today, and identical twins seem to be on the way. I am slightly freaked out, not least as I know the miscarriage rate is really high (they share a placenta) plus a million other things, DS is 16 months, we live in a flat, the whole psychological aspect., just wanted to talk to somebody.

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eandz · 02/07/2008 11:51

thats amazing! congratulations. the only thing i can say is stay positive please! thats the best thing you can do and i guess maybe stay away from any negative energy, jealous people and all around un happy people.

pregnantpopcornprincess · 02/07/2008 14:52

I know how you feel. I'm 9 weeks with identical twins and found out at 8 weeks. It was a shock but a happy one. I had a missed m/c in Jan so I'm very nervous of history repeating itself. Please try to stay positive. I think its the only thing you can do and its not good for you or your babies to be negative. Logistically (money, bedrooms, etc) we will also struggle but I believe that everything happens for a reason and that everything falls in to place.

tkband3 · 02/07/2008 18:36

Congratulations . You are going to be members of a very special club. My id girls were 3 in March - DD1 was 20 months when they were born, so my situation was similar to yours Nellstar, although we weren't living in a flat at the time.

All I can say is, there will be highs, there will be lows, but ultimately having twins is a huge blessing and a privilege. We have a regular thread here where we all gather for support and laughs. Do come and join us. Any questions, just ask. We have mums of triplets and twins - and even one mummy who has triplets and twins ...we don't see very much of her at the moment .

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Nellstar · 03/07/2008 11:29

Thank you all so much. After a fairly sleepless night getting over the shock. Feel unbelievably sick, no doubt you too pregnantpopcornprincess? I'm sorry about your missed m/c, I had a m/c in March but I think a missed m/c must be so upsetting. Good luck with these ones and it is so nice to know someone else is in the same boat. I suspect internet statistics are to be avoided, spent most of yesterday crying. So positivity must start now. Thanks for the thread link tkband3, I'm most frightened about the shared placenta, did your girls share a placenta? It doesn't help that DH is a doctor and there are a million terrifying medical books around the place. I think we will have to tell the parents early as feeling so ill and it's hard to look after DS1 with no help. It's just such a shock after DS1, had a home birth etc etc, born on his due date... Ah well, just want these littluns to hang in there. Thanks again.

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poorbuthappy · 03/07/2008 11:38

Morning ladies,

Found out yesterday at 12 week scan that I am having twins...

I knew I was because of how I was feeling, and I told everyone but no one believed me!

Now panicking about double buggys and cars...

oh the joy!

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Nellstar · 03/07/2008 12:31

Congrats poorbuthappy, are they your first? I thought from the word go I was having twins too, just didn't think they'd be identical! Are you feeling any better now? Please tell me the morning noon and night sickness gets better, with DS1 it went at 10 weeks but this is much worse and fear it will go on longer...

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poorbuthappy · 03/07/2008 13:19

No Nellstar I have another dd who is 4 in September.

Yes I feel a lot better than earlier in pregnancy...my 9th week was one of the worst of my life which culminated in one of the most spectactular throwing up sessions ever seen...I still get nausea, but nothing as bad as earlier!
I'm now officially 12+6 as they measured 12+5 yesterday rather than 12, but they are exactly the same size which is a good thing!

I have another scan next Tuesday to work out the placenta situation etc so they can decide if I am high risk, or simply a little bit higher risk than normal...

tkband3 · 03/07/2008 13:28

Nellstar, mine shared an amniotic sac and a placenta!! Even so, my consultant would have been happy for me to have a natural birth (albeit in hospital) had I gone into spontaneous labour by 37 weeks - both babies were firmly head down from quite early on and didn't move around much. I didn't and ended up having an elective c-section at 37+4 - I believe with identicals that the placenta starts deteriorating after 37 weeks of sustaining two babies.

I wasn't actually sick but I felt extremely nauseous in my first trimester. Apart from that I had a trouble-free pregnancy - in fact, much nicer than my singleton pregnancy when I had obstetric cholestasis and itched the whole way through - although was obviously more tired and uncomfortable by the end!

One of our multiple mummies is a doula, so will be able to help with any birth questions you have - I'll point her in this direction. And steer clear of the medical books .

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Nellstar · 03/07/2008 13:47

O tkband3 it makes me so happy to hear that yours were fine and dandy with shared amniotic sac and placenta! Sounds like your consultant was mighty cool, the consultant yesterday said they are really strict in my local hospital (King's London) and insist on caesarians for identical twins. Glad you're feeling better poorbuthappy, can't tell you, you've both made me feel a load better. Thank you! Do you think I'm foolish to think of telling my parents this early - feeling so ill and could do with some help with DS1..

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poorbuthappy · 03/07/2008 15:38

Personally i wouldn't worry about telling early - I told all close family and work at 5 weeks...purely because if I had had any problems I know I would have needed a really good support network around me.

And perhaps it just me, but if I had to ring work to say I wasn't coming in cos something had happened then it would make more sense if they knew I was pregnant!

Although each to their own - you have to do what you feel comfortable with...

tkband3 · 03/07/2008 17:55

There's no reason why healthy, head-down id twins can't be born naturally, if that's what you want. Mars (the doula I mentioned) could probably give you some tips on 'handling' () the medics so you can have the birth you want. I had mine at the Homerton in East London - my consultant did start out by saying that they would do a CS, but he changed his mind. Although we were under strict instructions to make sure that whichever consultant was in charge at the birth, kept a firm hold on twin 2, once twin 1 had been born, so she didn't flip round in all the unaccustomed space (IYSWIM) .

I would tell your parents, particularly if you're feeling really rough.

Glad to have helped somewhat though - any more questions, don't hesitate to ask .

Abubu · 03/07/2008 21:57

Hi there,

Not sure who said it but I heard this once: Twins are only given to people who can cope with them.
There will be hard times, its certainly not always a bed of roses but you'll be fine.

daydreambeliever · 04/07/2008 08:59

Hi Everyone, Oh My God, me too. Found out on Thursday am 12 wks pregnant with identical twins. DD turned one last Monday. We live in a 2 bed rented house and cannot afford to move. I am slightly reassured that you are all in small houses too. And I like the quote above Abubu about twins only being given to people who can cope with them.

I am slightly freaking out though. I was kind of happy, cant see the details but it will be fine about it till yesterday, now it feels like reality has hit.

Its how Im going to manage with my DD as well that is bothering me, 3 under 18 months. Oh Dear Me.

MarsLady · 04/07/2008 09:05

Congratulations!

Looking forward to seeing you on the the d'y ever thread linked below.

Let's take it a step at a time ladies and find out about placentas and sacs etc. Then we can look at the protocols and I'll be able to help you with "handling" as TK put it!

ChopsTheDuck · 04/07/2008 09:12

wow, lots of twins ont he way!

Congratulations, everyone. It is a big shock, I don't think I slept for weeks after seeing mine on that screen. Mine were unplanned, we were living in a third floor, two bed flat with two children already. We got there!

COme an join us on the d'y threads, the support there is great, it's helped me no end.

daydreambeliever · 04/07/2008 14:10

Oh it is so good to know that other people have got through this! I mean, I know we are very lucky and everything but I just dont know how we will manage! Chops, did you stay in your flat or move? I will definitely be checking out the d'y ever thread.

ChopsTheDuck · 05/07/2008 08:25

we stayed until the dts were 7 mnths. Had two cots in our room with us. Then we moved - the same week the boys started to crawl!

We actually moved because of work more than the dts, though it was handy with the extra space.

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Nellstar · 05/07/2008 14:55

congrats daydreambeliever, and yes, we too in a two bed flat, my DS1 is 16 months so it'll be 3 under 2 for me, which is a tiny improvement on 3 under 18 months! I'm sure all will be well, I liked abubu's quote too, trying to believe it applies to us..Feeling sick as a dog and trying to get my head round it all. We're not alone thank goodness! Thanks for all the support everyone.

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Fifi1985 · 21/12/2020 09:19

I've just found out we are having id twins at our scan. We are 13 weeks. My partner and I are in shock. I have a 8 month year old baby and my bf already has two children from a previous marriage. He is gutted as he didn't want more than 3 children but I really wanted one more. Now we have two on the way. He's worries sick of how we are going to afford it. We need a new 7 seater car and a new house 🙈 I'm worried sick of how I'm going to cope with twins at a 13 month old baby. I become an emotional mess with no sleep.

Do you have any twin suggestions for prams, cots and cribs. As I was told by the midwife to put the twins together. I kniw having Id twins is higher risk I just hope they both survive.

Many thanks

Fiona

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