Just some solidarity needed… toddler twins

Spiralfire · 2025-04-29T08:14:46+00:00

I have 14 month old twin boys. They are just starting to walk and things are hard. My DH works full time so usually it’s just me with them (I start part time work in 6 months). I try my best to take them outside daily and keep them entertained but sometimes it’s exhausting. I am now making the active effort to ask in-laws and family members close by for help so I can focus on myself too as I was in a very bad place mentally recently. Just some solidarity needed from other twin parents really!

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Anothercoat · 29/04/2025 09:17

My twins are 14 now. Massive solidarity fistbump from me. Are you getting sleep?

Mine walked quite late and then would knock each other over seemingly on repeat. Or run off in opposite directions. Stunningly hard.

HowChairsFly · 29/04/2025 09:37

Aw, mine are now 13, but the toddler years were tough. I used to take mine daily to two playgrounds which were well fenced and easy to keep an eye on one while being with the other.
getting help from family and friends is a brilliant thing and doing stuff for you. Well done!
you will get through this

SouthLondonMum22 · 29/04/2025 09:41

Mine just turned 1 a few days ago. Somehow survived the first year! I have a very active one who started walking at 9 months and a more placid one who I feel like will never decide to walk but she bum shuffles at an impressive rate. 😂

It's certainly an experience.

Filedrinkblanket · 29/04/2025 09:49

Mine are 16 now but when they were young I found for my sanity that I needed a strict routine. I went back to work at 14 months and it was a life saver. I would take dc1 to school then do a planned activity in the morning, a playgroup where you can see everything is good (soft play not so good unless it's fenced off). I then gave them lunch and popped them down for a nap (and if needed had a nap myself). Then collected dc1 from school. I had a strict after school routine which helped and a strict bedtime. Knowing I was going to get to 730 and be able to sit down with a cup of tea was what kept me going sometimes. I was a single parent so it was for my sanity and perhaps too structured for some but it worked for us. It does get easier. I think the 9 months to 2 years were my hardest times (even two teenagers doing GCSEs is not as bad)!

twinnies1987 · 01/06/2025 20:11

Filedrinkblanket · 29/04/2025 09:49

Mine are 16 now but when they were young I found for my sanity that I needed a strict routine. I went back to work at 14 months and it was a life saver. I would take dc1 to school then do a planned activity in the morning, a playgroup where you can see everything is good (soft play not so good unless it's fenced off). I then gave them lunch and popped them down for a nap (and if needed had a nap myself). Then collected dc1 from school. I had a strict after school routine which helped and a strict bedtime. Knowing I was going to get to 730 and be able to sit down with a cup of tea was what kept me going sometimes. I was a single parent so it was for my sanity and perhaps too structured for some but it worked for us. It does get easier. I think the 9 months to 2 years were my hardest times (even two teenagers doing GCSEs is not as bad)!

Hello, I’d be really interested in hearing a little more about your fabulous after school routine, if you can remember please?! Any amazing tips? 😅

I have 4.5yo, 2.5yo and just turned 1 twins. We have a bedtime routine which works, but it’s the post nursery collection at 3pm part which really finishes me off 🤪 making dinner with everyone whinging 🥴 constant requests to play while I’m cooking / giving the twins dinner 🫣 We usually do 20 mins or so of tv straight after nursery as the older 2 are exhausted, but apart from that it’s constant moaning 🙃

Filedrinkblanket · 01/06/2025 22:43

twinnies1987 · 01/06/2025 20:11

Hello, I’d be really interested in hearing a little more about your fabulous after school routine, if you can remember please?! Any amazing tips? 😅

I have 4.5yo, 2.5yo and just turned 1 twins. We have a bedtime routine which works, but it’s the post nursery collection at 3pm part which really finishes me off 🤪 making dinner with everyone whinging 🥴 constant requests to play while I’m cooking / giving the twins dinner 🫣 We usually do 20 mins or so of tv straight after nursery as the older 2 are exhausted, but apart from that it’s constant moaning 🙃

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Hi, it is a bit of a blur. But after school it was snack/drink while I prepared any bit of tea I hadn't managed in the day. Then we'd play/go in garden/ craft for an hour. Then I'd pop the tv on for half an hour if needed while I sorted tea/got everything out for bath/bedtime/next day. Then tea/wash pots. School reading books/homework while dt would play in sight. All helped have a quick tidy up of toys. Then upstairs (rule was they didn't come back down afterwards) bath, story, teeth and bed. When bathing have everything in bathroom so you can watch one in bath while drying the other etc. I'd bf dt while reading to dc1 when young. I never rocked dt to sleep, they self settled from birth with some help at first which helped. I think the biggest thing was consistency all 3 dc knew what was happening and when and also my expectations of them. It get easier (soon they're the ones locking up/setting the alarm because you can't stay awake that late!)

twinnies1987 · 03/06/2025 22:31

Filedrinkblanket · 01/06/2025 22:43

Hi, it is a bit of a blur. But after school it was snack/drink while I prepared any bit of tea I hadn't managed in the day. Then we'd play/go in garden/ craft for an hour. Then I'd pop the tv on for half an hour if needed while I sorted tea/got everything out for bath/bedtime/next day. Then tea/wash pots. School reading books/homework while dt would play in sight. All helped have a quick tidy up of toys. Then upstairs (rule was they didn't come back down afterwards) bath, story, teeth and bed. When bathing have everything in bathroom so you can watch one in bath while drying the other etc. I'd bf dt while reading to dc1 when young. I never rocked dt to sleep, they self settled from birth with some help at first which helped. I think the biggest thing was consistency all 3 dc knew what was happening and when and also my expectations of them. It get easier (soon they're the ones locking up/setting the alarm because you can't stay awake that late!)

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Thanks for the intel! I think you’re right it’s about DC understanding the expectations. Ours understands the bedtime routine as they go upstairs, but I think I need to nail down the dinner time part 😆🙈 THANK YOU!