Twin asleep on feeling pillow

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Hi ladies
i already know the correct answer but just wondering if anyone did something similar
one of my twins will not sleep in the next to me crib or Moses basket at all!
she is nearly 3 weeks old
the only place she will sleep is either on me or on her twin feeding pillow
ive put a crib sheet around the pillow so she stays as flat and up right as possible, I find this is the only way I will get any sleep even a hour. To me her neck and head seems safe
me and my partner do shifts when he is not working - he does 14 hour shifts back to back for 3 days and on these days I barely get any sleep as she just wants to be on me. I’m struggling

This period is so hard, it's awful, but the advice is there for a reason. Does she wake as soon as you move her to the Moses basket?

Do you have anyone who can come to watch them during the day, while you sleep?

I'm sorry OP you are right that it isn't safe :( can you speak to your HV tomorrow for some advice? This newborn stage is exhausting and I can't imagine doing it with twins you are amazing

Hi, we're in exactly the same boat. Cannot give advice as our twins are only 11 days old, but here In solidarity 😁
We've got a next to me, it takes about 2 hours to get them both settled enough to go in it ..to only sleep for 15-30 mins. The only way my partner has been able to get them to sleep is on the feeding pillow. Same as you....they can get 3-4 hours like this so my partner can actually sleep.
I help where I can, but we have a 2yo who still needs a lot of support her sleep.
So we totally get it.... sleep is so important and we've been racking our brains trying to think of other ways we can do this more safety too.....
my partner colept with our singleton and our twins were good birth weights so I think we're going to try this tonight. Like you we have one good sleeper and one less so. So one of our options is to cosleep with her whilst her sister goes in the cot... trial and error I think

What weight was your twins at birth? Were they full term?

Ps glad its not just us resorting to this, the guilt and worry is unreal

@verycloakanddaggers Hey, yes my mum pops over to me often and I’m able to get hours in the daytime but during the night while my partner is working I just have myself. I’m more worried to fall asleep holding her than anything!
But yes, soon as she is settled I put her on the basket/crib and she could last anything between 10 minutes to an hour before she gets fussy and wants out. She is bottle fed combi mix of formula & breast milk so I know she is fed enough

@Alwaystired2023 Hey! Thank you. I know this stage won’t last forever. My HV is a bit useless tbh! But of course I will speak to her about it

@StarShine23 Hi! Wow so ‘nice’ to read this comment & know we’re not alone 😅
The babies are 20 days old today. My boy is so settled and chill. My girl has been a bit crazy in the last week and just wants to be held. My partner was awake with her between 1am & 6am last night. She will fall asleep and he will transfer her, she’ll last 20 mins in the crib. So he barely got any sleep. I know there is not much we can do but like you said sleep is very important also especially when it is two babies to look after! And for you a toddler! I really hope this will just be a short phase.
I’m just more worried to ever fall asleep while she is on me, I know I won’t but when you feel so sleep deprived you never know. My boy has a lot more wake windows during the day so if I nap when she naps, then he is awake so I cannot! .. If she does fall asleep on the pillow - I’m asleep next to her I’m such a light sleeper and open my eyes with every noise she makes. I did say to my partner this morning I will feel more comfortable co sleeping with her than her being on the feeding pillow as at least she will be in a flatter position. I think we will have to give it a go also..
My twins were born at 37 weeks. my boy 6lbs 2oz & my girl 5lbs 9oz. Now my boy is plus 7lbs and my girl just under 7lbs !

Co sleeping with twins in a safe manner is safer than falling asleep on the sofa or in a chair. Firm mattress. Separate bedding for babies. Cool bedroom. After a bit I did find it much much easier to get them down in their cots than at the beginning. They are wired to feed little and often to demand feed which is why it is natural for them to wake up often. If you are lying in bed safely you can rest and demand feed and breastfeeding is protective against SIDS. Co sleeping and breastfeeding, safely, is I think not implicated in a higher SIDS rate than very sleep deprived mother dropping off to sleep mid feed, which is what you want to avoid.
Tbh after four weeks I had them both in cots used to breast feed one after another and put them back and they went out like lights.dd used to cry for a minute and then slept. It did get better. After the feed they were full ,winded, sometimeschanged, and ready to sleep again.

I slept in the same room as the two cots. DH in a different room. Then he came in to help after his sleep and took them away for a bit, so I could sleep another bit undisturbed. In the day I slept on the sofa after lunch and put them in their pram at naptime with a muslin that smelt of me, next to the sofa. Pram mattress firm.

Winding is really important. I also combi fed at this stage.