My twins are 9 months old… pregnant AGAIN

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I am freaking out about to faint
We have only JUST got them sleeping and got 1% of our life back (not near enough all of it).
I just took a test and it’s a faint positive.
I can’t do it again, I struggle so much with my twins already and I’ve felt so lost, to bring another baby would be crushing.
This is so awful but I am
considering not having it.. my DH is supportive either way but even he knows how much it took on our marriage working through the twins. We’re still working through it.
I don’t know what to do and I am so guilty and scared

Oh God. My sil and bro had this. I mean they did amazing but I wouldn't recommend it! They were horrified but went ahead. Kids out all teens now with 15 months between them. I wish you loads of good luck to you

I am amazed you have the energy and desire to have sex!

On a serious note:
Can you afford it?
Do you have space?
Will your current children’s lives be negatively affected? (E.g room sharing etc)
How is your health?
Is your employment secure?
Do you and DH want another one?

It’s a not uncommon situation OP. Please don’t panic.
You have coped with a twin pregnancy- a singleton pregnancy is MUCH easier.
You have coped with twin newborns- a single newborn is MUCH easier.
You can enjoy just having one baby. You are an experienced mum now. By the time the baby is here the twins might well be walking, they should be entertaining themselves to a certain extent too.
People cope with triplets and quads. You can cope with this. Who knows, you might go on to have a fourth!

You might have twins again 😱 four under 2!

It’s ok to not continue the pregnancy for any reason. Wanting your life back or feeling your family is complete (even just complete for now) are perfectly valid reasons for not having another child at this point.

There is also the possibility it could be twins again. Four under two???

Good luck with your decision x

Also:
Do you and DH want another and is age on your side?
Do you have family/friend support around you, beyond your DH?
How would you feel if it's twins again?

And also don't feel guilty about whatever decision you make. It will be the right one for you and your family. On the side, is it worth reviewing your contraception if the thought of another pregnancy is crushing?

You're going to be fine, a thing to remember because sometimes you cant see it in the panic is that your twins won't be like they are now when any baby arrives, they'll be 18 month old toddlers, so it won't be 3 babies.

BUT, you're absolutely entitled to make any decision that works for you, good luck.

We’re 28, so I feel age is on our side but no we don’t really have family support. My siblings live far and both sides grandparents are old and can’t help out much.
DH works full time so I raise the babies alone mostly, and I do still struggle. It just changed our marriage so much we felt like robots and we’ve only just started to try harder as a family to stabilise, and now this.

contraception wise 100% something I will be looking into definitely when I’ve made my decision

This happened to me but I found out at 6 months PP. I was so scared st the time and struggled a lot at the beginning. The new baby was actually very easy to manage and felt invisible. He jusf slotted into our lives and you don't realise how much you have learnt til you look after a baby again.

The twins will be more hard work but they would be hard work anyway.

My youngest is 19mo now and they all get on so well it is so special. I am so glad it worked out this way. It is so much easier when they are closer in age. They all just attend the same avtivities, nurseries and eat the same food it is great.

Things always work out in the end x

I got pregnant 9 months PP after my singleton pregnancy, I would have had an 18m age gap. For many reasons I had a termination. I did have a period of regret. I'm now pregnant with twins (planned pregnancy) I found out at 7 weeks the pregnancy was twins and although it was a horrendous shock and I was devastated, the feeling I had was so different to the feeling I had when I found out I was pregnant with the termination that it made me realise I did the right thing with terminating.

Totally agree that whatever you decide is totally up to you