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Multiple births

When do you start showing with twins? What is life with twins like? Join the conversation on our Multiple Births forum.

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terribletwos · 01/04/2008 19:56

Hi folks

this is my first time here. I have twin boys of 15months and they are gorgeous my problem is I work from home so they have to go to nursery 4 days per week. I feel so guilty, I miss them when they aren't here and don't think I could cope full time if they were! I'm exhausted after a weekend because they are so active. Is this normal - everyone else seems so in control????

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yogimum · 01/04/2008 20:15

Perfectly normal! But I know what you mean when it appears everbody else is in control. Of course there are always those who make it look easy but they are in the minority! I have a ds 20 months and he is exhausting!

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terribletwos · 02/04/2008 09:44

Yogimum its nice to know I'm not the only one I always try and make sure the boys are well turned out then catch sight of myself in a window - horrified!!

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yogimum · 02/04/2008 12:47

I always say that today is the day I will make more of an effort but it takes too much energy. I've looked after twins and they are great but its a lot of work so don't worry you are doing a marvellous job.

iamdingdong · 02/04/2008 12:58

multiple mums, in control - where is this parallel universe and can I live there please?! I think the age they are is very hard and I think boys more so than girls - and I found my girls a real handful at that age so can only imagine how it is for you! I went back to work 3 days a week when mine were 6 months, then tried f/t when they were about 20 months but didn't like it, had a go at being a SAHM but couldn't cope with that either (or the lack of money!) and am now f/t with them in nursery every day. I do feel guilty, esp when they ask not to go to nursery so no, you're not alone

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terribletwos · 03/04/2008 14:33

I wish I could afford to be a SAHM but then I'd need help so we're back to square one. My best was when I forgot something for the boys and made flip comment 'oh I'm such a crap mum' and the nursery didn't disagree they just said 'oh its only because you've got two'

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Leoloopydoo · 03/04/2008 21:02

Who is in control???? I work 3 days (have ds1 (3) and dts (13months), I struggle every day with it and have been very close to quiting, but I truly believe that the dcs are better off without me being a ft sahm. they get something I can't give them from their childcare and something from me that their childcare can't give them.

Can you put them in nursery 2-3 days and have someone at home to look after them so you wouldn't be away from them for so long?

oooggs · 06/04/2008 08:29

control??????? I am going back to work next week (d1 4.4 & dts 12mths) they are going to nursery 2.5 days a week when I am working.

I couldn't be a full time SAHM, it is exhausting and I need a break. I am near enough working to pay nursery fees but that is my choice.

TBH if I could put them all in nursery 2 days a week and stay home on my own to catch up I would.

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terribletwos · 14/04/2008 16:14

Sorry Leoloopydoo I don't get to chat v often. Unfortunately family are all really far away and we did look at getting a childminder/family friend to have them for one day per week but it fell through. My boys get a lot from being at the nursery too and I am sure working is good for me its just getting used to the situation

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