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frumpygrumpy · 14/03/2008 10:54

Ok girls, thinking caps on. We need to pool our practical thoughts and our coping strategies.......

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duchesse · 14/03/2008 10:56

Thanks everyone!

frumpygrumpy · 14/03/2008 10:57

I suggest getting one of everything i.e. playgym, baby door hanger bouncer thing, baby walker (yes, I know the chat about them), a bumbo seat thing, a doughnut ring thing, a babyswing, a prison (what do you call them, a playpen) etc etc. Then when they are at that stage you can keep rotating them onto a new thing.

(I did cut and paste it yes , I tend to only have one thought in a day)

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frumpygrumpy · 14/03/2008 10:58

Anyone used the big giant prams? We really need to make contact with the sextuplet family - they were aptly called The Waltons I think! Girls must be 18/20 by now.

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largeginandtonic · 14/03/2008 11:03

Will transfer post.

largeginandtonic · 14/03/2008 11:04

Oh bless her, must be so hard worrying.

I had twins at 29 weeks but none of the others came early so tell her there is hope. She must rest as much as possible, i realise with toddler twins that is almost laughable.

Shame she wont come on here. I will link to a this one you can attach 2 toddler seats to the front not just one.

They are heavy but very good, i have one

Will get thinking about other things for her.

this one

duchesse · 14/03/2008 11:06

Can you put triplets in the seats at the back G&T? Cos if so, that looks quite nifty really.

largeginandtonic · 14/03/2008 11:13

I think you could, it is massive. While they are tiny 2 would fit in one seat, they are very laid back and snug. The toddler seat on the front does not squish the babies behind either.

There is the triple mountain buggy too, but i am not sure how compatible it is with todller boards on the back which she would need at the very least.

largeginandtonic · 14/03/2008 11:20

This one too

Or perhaps just go with a bus

Rubyrubyruby · 14/03/2008 11:25

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frumpygrumpy · 14/03/2008 11:50

The bus is fantastic!!! I can just see me on the school run, going down the big hill

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frumpygrumpy · 14/03/2008 11:51

Ruby I used to be made to watch adore the A Team Corrr, now you've sent me back.....

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oooggs · 14/03/2008 12:28

fg - you are on form today

juliax3 · 14/03/2008 13:58

the quad stroller i liked. put twins, 2 trips in there and strap 3rd trip to your chest.

they use the bus in daycare centers here in japan but it is all sitting space - will she be able to lay the little ones in there? without the twins getting to them?

i have the valco double stroller with toddler seat - a, i don't think it is any good for newborns and b, attaching a board at back will make it heavy heavy heavy.

when my trips were born i put all 3 in a double pram (one big bed on wheels, without dividers, don't know what you brits call this).

and how about that hideous american runabout? i wouldn't like to be caught dead with it but i am also not expecting twins...

she needs to get a roster of people to help her to take kids for walks, not to mention cleaning the house etc. the best advice i got when i was pregnant with mine was to say "yes" to any offer of help and even volunteer some people who were too "shy" to offer it.

frumpygrumpy · 14/03/2008 15:29

Why thank you Ooogs I do feel shite but I'm glad it can't be picked up through the wires

I was just catching up to make sure everyone --is- posting the list was growing and I suddenly laughed. Why do we think this darling girl is ever going to need a buggy and want to leave the house with her children? She might want to run screaming down the road with a suitcase at times but will she want to nip out for a walk?

I don't think I am the only one who found it easier staying at home lots of days. Thats kind of how we all met I think!

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frumpygrumpy · 14/03/2008 15:30

Do tell her to pop in duchesse. We will support her and then we will bow in awe.

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duchesse · 14/03/2008 16:07

I"ll try, Frumpy.

MarsLady · 14/03/2008 16:16

Will pop in and out and suggest things [lol]

I think a PN doula would be great actually.

As to equipment... well give me some time and I'll think about that as well.

tripletsandtwins · 15/03/2008 00:59

First off, Huge congratulations to her, she's just signed up for the most exhausting, challenging, difficult ride of her life, but it's also the most rewarding, exhilarating and amazing thing that will ever happen to her.

How is her pregnancy going so far? Has she had any problems or is it all going well? With my triplets, I carried just past 35 weeks without complications or bedrest and they were in NICU 15 days, 10 days and 9 days (in birth order). With the twins, I carried for just shy of 37weeks and they came home 2 days later with no intervention at all , so I don't know how connected everything is. Mars might know?

Okeydokey then, down to business!

First piece of advice, tell your friend to be prepared to become an instant celebrity. If she wants to pop to the shop to get some milk, tell her to give 30 minutes time extra, just for all the gawking she'll receive! That's something that I found really hard when I first had the triplets so if she's had time to prepare it will be so much better.

Try not to let her fall into the trap of believing every word that health professionals say, I did at first and I was convinced that I wouldn't be able to look after triplets and I was so scared.

Tell her that she must accept help wherever it's offered. Even a five minute respite some days will be all she needs. Nannies are expensive, but she could sign on to a local uni or college website, and ask for someone. Or she could get some teenagers in, I do, I never leave my kids alone with them, but they can play with them for a while and leave me to do something else. She probably knows this from having twins, but it's easy to forget.

Tell her to remember that people often say things without thinking and she should take everything with a pinch of salt - They probably don't have experience of what she's going through.

Ok, onto strollers, personally I wouldn't get a huge stroller, a triplet stroller gets so much attention without it being a quintuplet and I don't like that much attention.

I'd buy 2 different strollers, a triplet and a twin. Or if I was going out on my own a lot I'd have a triplet stroller and a sling - this would lower her profile and she'd be able to sell it easier later on. There are also double slings available, which she might like to look at, I haven't tried them, so I can't give advice on them - my triplets were 3.7 when I had the twins, and they're all great at walking, so it wasn't a problem we really had to contend with - sorry!

I'd also get one that doubles as car seats, like the triple decker stroller, otherwise, she'll be at the mercy of sleeping babies!

Other stuff:

Crib sheets are an absolute must, they save sooo much time.

Later on she might like to think about getting a crib tent My trio taught each other how to climb out of the crib and these kept my mini escapists in bed.

Love this idea, you could buy 1 as a present for her!

Just think, now she can have a playgroup without even leaving the house

Right, I've got to run, one of my babies is crying and I've ignored her long enough while I wrote this essay

Hope this helps her, do try to get her on here, it would be nice to speak with someone as mental as me!

duchesse · 15/03/2008 07:31

aha, triplets and twins! Just the person.

The twins will be 2 in April, and she is about 21 weeks with the triplets. The twins were born at 33 weeks, but her pregnancy this time is being very closely managed, so with any luck will get as far again or further.

duchesse · 15/03/2008 07:33

Oh, and she is a doctor, so may well not be too taken in my what doctors say...

frumpygrumpy · 15/03/2008 14:09

Great post T&T Wish I'd had the twin sling, I loved my sling. Wore it morning, noon and night

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MarsLady · 15/03/2008 16:57

This is the t-shirt that I loved best

"please resist the urge to
give advice, my parents
are doing a great job"

Love it!

No two pregnancies are the same. There's no reason why she can't carry the triplets for longer than she carried the twins, after all her body is used to it now.

oooggs · 15/03/2008 19:45

I carried twins longer than my singleton - not that it helps

duchesse · 22/04/2008 13:58

Friend has now reached nearly 28 weeks! She doesn't really have time to come on here but will probably read all your suggestions. Thanks all, for taking the time to write them down.

duchesse · 26/05/2008 10:55

The triplets are born. Two boys and a girl, all good weights, born at 32 wks 2 days. Trips in SCBU but doing well, mum well. Relief all round.

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