how to separate birthdays - quite late in the day

[cremantsupernova]

I have nearly 10 y/o non-id twin girls whose birthday falls the week before xmas (I know, crap timing)
They are very different - one tomboyish other more dreamy but get on very well like an old married couple and are generally affectionate towards each other.
One of them mentioned she would like a day that she didn't have to share - and I think this if fair enough.

I am thinking we can have "twin day" on their birthday and then allow them to choose a day at any other day of the year to celebrate them and have their party/sleepover whatever. Bit like the Queen used to have an official bday

Any advice?

I think if your birthday is so close to Christmas it's nice to have an 'unofficial' birthday in the summer. I'd let them choose a day each in the summer as their extra birthday and just do something small (and shared) on the actual day. I'd divide presents too so they don't get everything in one go, small present on the actual birthday and then something bigger on their extra birthday.

Honestly, yes. I see the logic here. A shared birthday close to Christmas is kinda a double whammy for the short straw. Also as a summer born child I remember birthdays were sunny and could be a bbq or a pool party, a day at the beach or a theme park. With that in mind, maybe they can choose a Saturday each in July ( I’m assuming you’re U.K. if not adjust month to suit) and choose their own perfect day? Don’t call it ‘half birthday’ or ‘extra birthday’ as it might sound a bit batshit to their friends. Just call it ‘Lily’s special day’ and ‘Daisy’s special day’ (sorry lack of imagination with flower names 🤣) feel free to add cake, jelly and icecream though! That’s never a bad idea.

Not my twins but my elder singleton has a birthday between Christmas and new year. She’s having a party for her friends in January, we figured everybody would be back at school and have nothing much on after Christmas. Plus it was easier to book venues etc.

On her actual birthday we’ll have extended family over to celebrate, as we’ve done every year.

I think this would work beautifully. An unofficial birthday on the Summer each sounds like something they can plan and look forward to.