Sleep nightmare!

[xxholr5xx]

Hi I’m looking for some help in regards nighttime. We have non identical twin boys who are 13 months and couldn’t be more chalk and cheese if they tried. Twin 2 is so chilled out, been sleeping in a cot in his own room since 7 months through the night and causes us no problems. Twin 1 on the other hand has never slept through the night, barely eats and still needs bottles in the night. He will not go in a cot in the same room as his brother as he just screams endlessly and ends up waking him up. He also doesn’t like being around his twin and nursery say they have nothing to do with each other there. He’s outgrown his next to me crib so currently we are co-sleeping but even then he’s awake for various hours during the night and I’m exhausted. My partner works away a bit so when he’s home he has to sleep on the sofa which doesn’t help when I have to bring Twin 1 down during one of his crying fits. I can’t do controlled crying as we also have a 3 year old boy and I simply don’t have enough hands to settle them all if Twin 1 wakes them up. I’m at my wits end and so exhausted from getting about 3 hours sleep a night on top of teaching preschool. Any suggestions or even just support to know I’m not the only one with twins who don’t really bother with each other?

Many Thanks xx

I know I say this a lot but is there any chance that Twin 1 could have Tongue Tie? He sounds very much like our DS.

How's his speech and language too? Have a look at this progress checker to see if he's on track.

As for the waking, have you tried a bit of gentle night weaning? The method in the link is aimed at BFers but there's no reason that you can't do it with a FF baby

I've got non-identical twin girls (they turned 3 on Monday). They've always slept in the same room, cots/beds next to each other.
We hit a sleep regression when they were 4 months and we were plagued by very early mornings.
That was my trigger to do something. Since then we've followed the Little Ones programme. We stuck to it and found it really worked for us. There are plenty of methods for co-sleeping, self-soothing, feeding etc. I couldn't recommend it enough. I felt like you, frazzle and exhausted. Don't despair!

Can you tell me a bit more about his napping routine during the day? What’s his wake up time and bedtime? I have 5yr old twins, both with different sleep needs and been through many sleep scenarios.