Twin not socializing

[Magicmoons]

Hi, I have twin boys who have just started school in September. They have always been very close twins, but since starting school they have becoming even more of a unit, and won’t play with anyone else. We’ve tried to encourage them but they say they just want to play with each other. It’s a one class in take school so they are in the same class, so I’m not sure what we can do to encourage them to play with other children? Outside of school we have other friends who they do play well with, so I’m not sure if it’s a security thing at school.
I guess I’m looking for reassurance from other twin parents if this is normal? And if there is anything we can do to encourage them to play with others more? We have spoken to the school who are trying to encourage them, but without much success. Thank you

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Totally normal at that age. Ours still shared a bed as they didn't like being separated.

Now they are near leaving primary school they have their own friends and interests and will be going to different schools. They still have a tight bond and defend each other.

It can vary. I worked in a secondary school and some twins had to be in the same form and classes for everything and others totally ignored their twin. It was irrelevant whether identical, fraternal or b/g twins.

I'd guess that it's a security thing that will lessen the longer they're in school. Maybe invite a couple of class mates for tea a few times to help with familiarity.

Ah thank you both for responding!

@Novemberhater that’s really reassuring that you think this is normal and yours now have their own friends/ interests! Yes mine still share a bed too, I suggested getting two separate beds and they were horrified at the idea. I am glad they have such a close bond (although they do fight too of course!), we were just a bit worried watching all the other children making friends and ours aren’t interested. Hopefully it’ll improve as they get more settled.

@LizzieBet14 yes I think you’re right, it likely is a security thing. Fingers crossed it lessens. Play date is a good idea, maybe after Christmas though!!

@Magicmoons They stopped sharing a bed when they were 7-8. They had to decide by themselves. They are b/g twins.

Certainly play dates helped them to make friends and now they go to a lot of sleepovers with their friends without their twin.

They love each other fiercely and don't fight much, but when they do, it's awful.

I'm sure yours will be just fine.

Thank you again for the reassurance @Novemberhater . I’m going to go out my comfort zone and set up some play dates for them!

@Magicmoons I have b/g twins who are now 15. They've always been extremely close and shared a room until they were around 7. When they first started school, they didn't speak to anyone else at all. By the end of Reception, they barely even talked to each other in school although they remained very close outside of school. Once they started year 3, we'd moved, and they started at a different school where they were in separate classes. They're now in year 10 (how time flies!) and have different friend groups at school but still share a friend group from prep and regularly go out together as part of the group. Your two will be absolutely fine! It just takes time for them to become comfortable and once that's done, they'll each make plenty of friends. Good luck!

Mine are 18 now. They shared a bed till they were 10.
When they started school they were very quiet - one of them didn't even talk in class for 2 years! They stuck together, but gradually made a small group of friends together. At secondary they were in the same tutor group, but different classes for most lessons, but still had friends together. They made separate friends towards the end of secondary. One is now at uni, the other having a gap year, so will make totally different friends, although they still chat online to their old friendship group.

Mine are bg 6 years and I just sent an email tk the teacher this morning before I saw this .
Boy is fine but girl not making friends but very happy at school but makes me worrried .
We can't really do play dates as they have a severely disabled older sibling and we live in a small house .Comments bere are reassuring .