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Some advice/support needed

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cstx89 · 12/11/2022 18:38

i am so poorly with this bug/flu. Body been shivering most of the day and night. Lost my appetite and overall weak.

I have twin 3 yrs old twins- they are my world. So much love for them and try my best in everything I do.

My husband became disabled nearly 2 years ago - however his heath has been declining. Its becoming so much harder for me. I do EVERYTHING…
⁃ work full time in pressured job (wfh 3 days, the other 2 the MIL comes to help hubby)
⁃ Drop kids off to nursery everyday
⁃ Get them ready in the morning as well as myself
⁃ Recently I have told hubby he needs to start picking then up as it’s interfering with my job. He knows this but the pain is to bad
⁃ Clean the house
⁃ Food shopping
⁃ Booking appts n making sure we attend them
⁃ Plan the weekends (however if i am meeting anyone without hubby the kids have to come as he is not able to look after them)

Today was tipping point. I am so poorly n my body is aching. I needed to sleep it off however we had to do 45 mins switching turns. By the end of the night I am lying on the floor struggling to breathe and feel like i am going to pass out. Hubby and I argue as he is in pain and i do understand but my body is telling me I need rest.

So today the twins have mostly been on tablets, they weren’t feeling 100% either and i feel like the worst awful mum.

I feel like I am giving up and letting them down. I cant stress enough that my twins are just so perfect……my babies!

Family support is poor so no1 could help out today and probably the same tomorrow. I can understand they have their own lives but i feel extremely low today n I dont ask for help often.

I don’t know why i am posting. I suppose is anyone else in similar situation?

Don’t get me wrong, I know this isn’t the worlds worst issues but I am reaching out for some ideas to help me.

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Hafannedd123 · 12/11/2022 18:42

Really feel for you Flowers

Maybe try and find a local babysitter and use her / him fairly often for you to have some breaks and so the kids get used to her. Even just for a few hours for you ti have a break. Then when days like today arrise its another person to potentially call on for help. But appreciate that this is not ideal and would cost.

Maybe a chat with MIL? See if she can help a bit more?

Things might be easier when twins are at school. Pre and post school clubs?

Hope you are ok. My partner works long shifts and often works away so am alone with my little two so can appreciate how hard it can be xx

cstx89 · 12/11/2022 18:46

Thank you to you both for taking the time to reply. Its the first time i have said this out "out loud" lol.

Life is hard.

My hubby did mention a baby sitter actually so may look into it.

I will also look at that link.

Thank you again xx

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