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ineedadrink · 21/01/2008 14:18

I have 14 month old dt, both boys. until this weekend, dt2 was not able to move at all under his own steam ,whereas dt1 has been crawling since he was 9 months. now dt1 is a bit phased and annoyed by dt2 being able to move, as he now has competition for toys and so on, and they keep pummeling one another! they both want to see/do what the other is doing so are always in each others space. sometimes they play really well, but other times, they are vicous, especially dt 1 beating up dt2. (ie:bashing him with a wooden brick round the head or pushing him over (ALWAYS on the hard kitchen tiles!) or scratching him and so on). I have tried various things for varying lengths of time, for example, telling dt1 off, reasoning with him, raising my voice, removing him from the situation, as well as ignoring him and his behaviour and giving attention to dt2 instead to show that his negative actions do not reap attention. his reaction 9 times out of 10 to laugh and carry on hitting his brother. dt2 is not innocent in all of this, as now his confidence is growing with being able to move, he is starting to give as good as he gets, resulting in real scraps between the two of them.I know they are young, but I want to try and get this sorted and I think they are old enough to begin to understand that hitting is not acceptable. all suggestions welcome!

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
MarsLady · 21/01/2008 21:26

We're over here babe!

Chopster · 22/01/2008 07:45

aww, they sound just like mine.

Do they get any time apart? Mine, by this age did start to get a bit sick of the sight of each other. Maybe you could send one to grandparents, or just take one out to the park at the weekend to give them a little space.

I think you need to carry on ignoring the one doing the hitting and pay extra attention the the other, but it probably isn't something you are going to sort out over night. When you have two toddlers, same sex they do tend to want the same thing most of the time, and it does lead to scraps. Mine are still at it and they are now 2.10 but they are getting better. Dt2 went through a long phase of sinking his teeth into dt1 whenever he didn't get his way. Dt2 still has a slight black eye from dt1. It will pass, eventually...

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