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Multiple births

When do you start showing with twins? What is life with twins like? Join the conversation on our Multiple Births forum.

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7 M/O Twins - when will this get easier?!

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andyethereweare · 10/07/2022 22:04

Hi
Hoping for a handhold from multiple parents...

We are parents to 8 month (6.5months corrected) boy twins. They are fantastic, huge personality with the most infectious laughs.

Except when they're not in the mood to be like this.... the last few days has been hideous! Crying and whinging constantly. Wanting me to hold them constantly with no idea of the other one who will be screaming wanting his comfort.

They are both cutting their first teeth and we are also weaning (which is also a pain!) and it just feels like everything is going disastrously.

The newborn stage was TOUGH, but at least then they couldn't physically roll around! Now when trying to bottle feed I have two babies constantly trying to roll away or punching each other. Both are almost crawling but scream when they can't move as quickly as they want to.

It's so hard because I simply cannot comfort the babies in the way I want to, and the way my singleton mum friends do.

DP works long hours so I do the majority of the parenting alone during the week though he does loads once home.

Sorry. Phew. Offloaded now!!

Please assure me this gets easier? I feel like I'm about to crack up!!

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andyethereweare · 10/07/2022 22:04

And as if I needed proof of where my head is at.., I got the age wrong in the thread title

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Flackattack · 10/07/2022 22:10

it definitely does get easier - it’s all a phase! I chanted this to myself during some very tricky times!

I had singles - but you don’t always feel you do a good job with one with comforting as sometimes they just cry and whinge - so don’t compare and be kind to yourself!!

ellesbellesxxx · 10/07/2022 22:20

Totally a phase! I remember my boy twin getting really frustrated when he wanted to crawl but couldn’t quite coordinate. When he got going, he was then unstoppable but happy and would wear himself out nicely!
I remember them both teething at the same time 💐💐
It is so hard feeling constantly torn but this too shall pass. Have you got a local twins group? Xx

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andyethereweare · 10/07/2022 22:59

@Flackattack @ellesbellesxxx Thankyou both!!!

@Flackattack so hard not to compare but I know you are right, Thankyou,

@ellesbellesxxx there is a local twins group and I actually went along to the group last week for the first time in a while... our boys just wouldn't settle though. I think they're at that age where they aren't content to just lie on a playmat but aren't able to be up exploring in the way they probably want to be! It ended in them just crying until I was holding them both before making our excuses and leaving. That said it's been a good source of support to speak to other twin mums locally over WhatsApp although all of their twins seem to be much older so I guess these early days feel like a distant memory?! X

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NY152 · 23/07/2022 19:59

Hang in there! My partner and I were pretty honest with each other from the start that the first year felt a lot like something we just had to survive. Being horrendously sleep deprived and dealing with two babies who cried ALOT was so tough, I often just felt like a zombie it was so hard to even think some days. We have an older singleton so it does feel like an impossible job sometimes to keep everyone happy and I do feel guilty because I know he barely even cried as a baby because I could always give him my full attention. But at the end of the day you can only do your best! For us starting to walk was a real turning point for both, it’s made them so happy! They’re toddlers now and can enjoy the park and running around the garden…and also be distracted by snacks. When I look back at even six months ago I don’t know how I managed but somehow you do and its so different now honestly.

poorbuthappy · 23/07/2022 20:02

Embrace the chaos and get rid of anyone in your life who judges you for it. My twin girls are 13 now. It's a different challenge every day and sometimes it's shit. Roll with it. Good luck!

TheMagicDeckchair · 23/07/2022 20:14

Mine are coming up to 15 months now. One is walking well and the other is taking his first steps. That older baby stage is hard- they’re super alert but still can’t do very much physically and are frustrated. At the age mine are now there’s a lot less crying but keeping them safe is another challenge! That said, it is easier than the first year- still chaotic and now untidy but the boys are much happier for being mobile and able to explore. I would take this age over the 6-10 month olds anytime. It does get easier- although the challenges change.

TwinMama88 · 02/08/2022 15:55

Hi,
I've got 2 year old (28 months) twins boys.
I'm a single mom and have found it a really hard journey so far. I thought as babies it was tough, but now they're toddlers I sometimes think I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown.
Enjoy them while they're little, and can't run off in different directions and tell you 'no' 😅
And the tantrums...omg the tantrums.
It's not easy having 2 the same age especially when they both need you at the same time, definitely try and take some time for yourself if there are family members who can look after them for a short while occasionally, it will help you keep what's left of your sanity.

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