Exhausted

[Mumoftwinsplusone21]

Hi 👋🏻
So I'm a mum of 7 month old twins and 9yo dd
I'm exhausted constantly and have zero motivation.
Feel like I never get anything done and I get so upset about it.
Is it normal? The girls sleep through the night now so I do actually get some sleep.
I'm a single mum but I feel like having a partner would maybe be more tiring?
I think I'm after re assurance that things will get easier and life won't always be hard xx

It's normal if you had one baby let alone twins and a child. You are doing really well, especially as a single parent.

It'll absolutely get easier when the babies grow up and have a routine that suits the family.

Have a cuppa

@GinWithLime Thank you ❤️ I'm so inpatient and want to be back to my normal self right now

@Mumoftwinsplusone21
I am having a day like this today and just sobbing at the kitchen table to be honest.

I left my two year old twins in the front room whilst I was in the kitchen (can see them through the glass panel doors) to make their lunch and DD twin has rattled their box of plastic trains and one has hit the wall and left a dent and chipped the paint. We only painted the walls a few months ago trying to finally get around to doing the house up but it feels impossible.

I've got a hospital appointment I can't attend because they don't let me choose what date/time I just get given a letter and if you can't make that time then you get banished back to the review list.

I can get small slots of childcare to watch them but hospital visit is 3 hours out the house so it's a no-go.

Husband got no more hours left to book off work to watch them so I can't go to the (non urgent) appointment. It's for an ongoing issue which was caused by having the twins and an awful birth and I feel completely done in by it all the moment.

I should add I also have an older child who's 6 and I feel like they never get enough attention anymore.

@ffloogalBoom hey I hope today is a better day for you ❤️
It's completely relentless isn't it. I know this isn't ok but I find unless you shout out about things no one helps! The hospital need to accommodate you! It's your health and if ur not well then we all know what happens to the family & home.
Have you heard about home start? Google it xx

@Mumoftwinsplusone21
Yes have heard of homestart but I just don't want people in the house. I'd love a cleaner for a deep clean maybe once a month but I'd honestly be embarrassed to have someone in!

Hi OP it's totally normal! My twins are also 9 months and I have a 5 year old. I feel permanently exhausted - I do work full time in a demanding job - I probably do 50 hours plus per week and lots of domestic travel . Twins don't sleep through the night and I'm up from around 5am and I don't think I stop until I go to bed at 9pm.

Honestly I have a DH and I'd say it's 50/50 whether he makes things easier or harder!

I don't think there is any going back to your "normal self" - I think you need to adjust to this "new normal". Take the wind where you can - I don't stress about the house being as tidy anymore - I just don't have the energy. Just surviving the week is an achievement

I don't know if things will get easier yet? For me obviously sleeping through the night would be amazing but with then crawling now - in different directions - that's a new added stress plus they are more aware and get grumpy and frustrated if they aren't played with etc

I'm thinking age 5 things will get easier 🤞🏻😂🤦🏻‍♀️