Help! Feeling overwhelmed.

[Theregoesmyhomebirth]

Found out at my first scan that I'm expecting twins, measuring 10+0 so back on the 25th for a '12 week scan'.
I'm so overwhelmed and (please don't judge me) feeling so sad about the pregnancy and parenting I won't be able to have. DD is 2.5. I had a great pregnancy, fast labour and delivery at home, BF on demand and didn't stop until she was almost two, loved my maternity leave with baby groups and swimming etc.
All I could read last night was people saying the only way through is a strict routine and bottle feeding. Life is hard and chaotic, I'll be pulled in two directions and never feel like I'm meeting either twin's needs. I can't stop crying.

Just wanted to say hello OP - am in exactly the same boat and you've nicely articulated how I'm feeling, which I was struggling to do. Had a scan at the weekend and found out there's two in there, measuring 10+3 / 10+4 so I'm almost exactly as far along. My eldest will be 2y9m ish.

The BF is worrying me too, I loved it so much first time, so it's wonderful to see so many posters saying they managed it. Gives me hope.

Also freaking out about money, and about when I'll have to stop work. And my DH has also gone into full on car-research mode.

It is nice to know I'm not alone and someone else out there is in the same boat and has the same anxieties. I'm feeling like complete crap which doesn't help. xx

Well... Was feeling a fair bit better until I had a second scan at the consultant's request. Found out they are in fact identical and sharing a placenta (was told otherwise at the first scan) so now even higher risk. Fortnightly scans and they have to come out at 36 weeks apparently.

On the up side, I passed a twin mum at the park earlier who gave me a lovely grin when she heard me telling DD "that'll be us next year". Taking comfort in the solidarity

@Theregoesmyhomebirth yes that's what mine are. The high risk part is horrendous for the anxiety but hopefully regular scans will help. Seems like such a mountain to climb doesn't it!

Yep, I'm hoping some "all normal and happy" scans will reduce my panic but at the moment I'm just dreading it.

All in good time and I'll have given my head a good MN head wobble!

I mixed fed my DT which allowed me to feed for much longer. I gave them one bottle of formula in early evening. At that point in the day I had very little milk left, it allowed me to have a good meal and rest while the babies slept.

@Theregoesmyhomebirth

Well... Was feeling a fair bit better until I had a second scan at the consultant's request. Found out they are in fact identical and sharing a placenta (was told otherwise at the first scan) so now even higher risk. Fortnightly scans and they have to come out at 36 weeks apparently.

On the up side, I passed a twin mum at the park earlier who gave me a lovely grin when she heard me telling DD "that'll be us next year". Taking comfort in the solidarity

You will see twins everywhere now, there's a very special bond between twin/multiple parents. It's a reality that unless you have had twins you have absolutely no idea what it is like, so when you're friends say that their 2 close together in age was like having twins practice you calm breathing so you don't explode lol

My twin girls are now 2.5, they're my first and only children. They are non identical and were born at 33 week and sent 3 weeks in SCBU.

Yes they are hard work, and we have definitely been routine driven, but they also have 2 of the best personalities and I absolutely do get out with them, I always have done.

I do agree with you though about mourning an easy pregnancy, I felt a little sad about that too but hey this is what I got and I couldn't change it so just got to embrace it.

Good luck on your journey, twins are awesome xx