Help for friend with twins

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Hi. Would love some ideas of how we can help a friend... she had twins a few weeks ago, at about 33 weeks. They were in special care for 3-4 weeks, now home. They have no family around to support them, and given lockdown restrictions we are so limited on what help we can offer, as we can't go into the house and the babies are still so little so can't really be out very much (struggling to regulate temp etc)

We are doing a daily meal rota, so they get a meal delivered every day (started 2 weeks ago, running for at least another 3 weeks) and we have a rota for helping walk their dog each day....

But how else can we help???

We can all say "let us know if we can help with anything" but they don't really know what help looks like, and are so exhausted I don't think it's easy to think about how someone could help, and we all don't really know what to do in the current situation, but there is a few of us desperate to help them more if we can.

Just wondering if anyone who had had twins or more could share anything that they found really helped them.

Thanks. x

Could you do some washing and ironing for them? Pick up and drop off outside.
I’ve got twins but i remember not really wanting or needing much help as my partner was home with me for 6 weeks and was always great round the house with the cooking and cleaning.

Also asking if they need anything from the shop when you’re going, nappies etc

Offer to shop. We nearly ran out of nappies a couple of times.

Really, I didn’t need all that much support in the early days. Because they were premature (36 weeks when they came home from special care) they slept a LOT for the first 6-8 weeks. It got much harder when they were a few months old. I think the worst time was when they were about 2 months after due date - they took FOREVER to settle in the evening so it was a really difficult juggling act and I was exhausted.

It's so difficult with the current situation. In normal times I'd offer a house clean, washing and maybe take twins out for a walk in the pram and physical help with them in the house.

Could you offer to do a photo book to remember the early days?

You all sound so kind offering such help in difficult circumstances. I’m sure that whatever you do will be hugely appreciated!

Not to be negative but just keep in mind that if they say they don’t need help than to accept it. I found it really upsetting when people wouldn’t take no for an answer.

What you’re doing is great. Just try to keep up some help (doesn’t need to be as full on) as they get older. Around 4-9 months is when they’ll really appreciate your help!

I just wanted to say I wish I'd had a friend like you when I had my twins op. You sound lovely