On our own

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Am I normal?
I have toddler twins and I feel we don't have time for a social life or that I connect with anyone that is the same as me.
I know we're in a middle of a crisis right now and no one is sociable but before the coronavirus, I felt like we were on our own, if that makes sense.
I had to give up my work due to childcare costs, none of my friends are stay at home mums and my best friend and sister had met a new partner, who is really sociable , so they are out often meeting people. She has also moved to his part of the country, so I feel even more alone. I just feel abandoned.
I know they are my babies and my responsibility, that isn't the problem. I just feel like I'm trapped behind a glass window looking out into the world, wanting to connect with others. Wanting to be more sociable.
I used to go mother and toddler groups but I didn't connect much with the parents there. They were either well off and in their 40s or young and didn't want to work.
I want to work part time and will do once babies are in preschool.
Anyone else felt like this?

I could have written this! My twins turn 2 next week and have definitely felt quite isolated. I can only assume this is because caring for two babies / toddlers is all-consuming! My brain is constantly flooded with thought about them or what I need to do for them- washing, meal prep, sorting old and new clothes, preparing for next stages eg potty training, let alone preparing activities etc! When I meet people I am brain dead! I feel like I have nothing to offer and am just tired and dont have anything in common with the person I am talking to - even other mothers of just one baby I slightly resent it because I know I have had it harder! Of course raising children regardless of how many is hard but with twins and no help it is def a struggle. I just hope that once they become more independent and in school I can start to be more myself and do activities I enjoy again, and even meet more parents from their class etc. Where we are I feel there are no parents our age either- about a 8-10 year age gap which is frustrating when your kids are at totally different stages. Good luck- it is tough but you are not alone feeling like this!

It gets easier and you will find your people.

Well I didn’t find my people, they are all still down the pub enjoying their child free life.
But the children will get free nursery hours. So that’s a thing.