17 Month old + ID twins due in Sept! Advice needed!

[mumtobe789]

Hi guys!

I have a 17 month old daughter and found out this week at the 12 wk scan that we have identical twins due in September! I have always wanted a big brood but never considered this might happen! We did the Harmony test and will find out the gender in a week.

Whilst I am delighted, I am scared and would love any experience shares of having 3 kids under 2 or something similar. Any advice on twin pregnancy and newborn twins in general would be amazing.

We currently live in West London in a small house and are now looking urgently at moving out to Buckinghamshire to get more space. It's obviously a bit tricky moving due to the current Covid19 lockdown but hopefully this will ease.

Would love to know any experiences or pointers! Thanks

No advice, but congratulations and very good luck to you!

Congrats. My main advice would be to use any help to look after the babies whilst you focus on your older child. I shared an au pair with another family who had school age child, a few hours a day and she really helped with washing, taking them out in the buggy, leaving me to have quality time with eldest.

Congratulations 🥳 I have twins. They are 5 now.

Practically do you have help ? I was exhausted for the first few months. Do you have any family that will be able to help or can you hire a nanny or au pair ?

If you and DH go back to work childcare is crippling! We were spending over £1k a month. Au pair or childminder would have been easier.

Sign up to TAMBA and there are lots of twin mums groups on Facebook x

Thank you guys. We will be seeking full time help but not sure what route to go down yet. Will also hopefully have some family nearby. Make sure we keep up focus on the eldest as it's more vital at that stage in their development is great advice. Just found out it's identical twin girls

Hi
I almost had the same, my son was a little older though. Keeping focus the same just isn't going to happen. On any of them, try as hard as you like but it is a fact. A lot of parenting is prioritising. So ones had a poo, one has just projectile sick and the other has decided to put beans through the chair. All about what to deal with first that's the easy bit. You will find with twins as well your attention divided between them. It's not a nice feeling tbf but just have to make the best of it and be a real life octopus

My first was 20 months when the twins were born. The first year was tough, I did it largely by myself. It gets a lot better, you just have to have infinite patient. Try to sync the twins as much as possible. Also make sure your eldest is sleeping independently and sleep train the twins if needed. It's about survival and you'll be glad you did it. You'll be great!

@isurvived3under2

Survival is a great word!!!!

I'm in a similar situation. I have an 18 month old and twins due in September... will see how we get on. Good luck with the house move OP, I hope you're able to find somewhere soon and get sorted.

Buy Different coloured bottles so you know who’s been fed
At night either take a baby each or if you awake at the same time do a shift each
Make sure you get me time when your partner gets home

Get used to playing word games or singing games with the eldest so they don’t feel suddenly left out

Make sure when the babies sleep the eldest gets some one on one time to play.