Hand hold please - twin shock

[Chaosonthehorizon]

Hi just found out that we are having babies 3 and 4, total shock, no twins in the family. Feeling absolutely terrified, worried about how I will cope, effect on the others and on our family’s future. Also they are in two sacs but sharing a placenta. Feeling very wobbly. Older two are 5 and 3.

Congratulations! It will be very hard but you will cope and the older ones will quickly adapt. Twins are amazing. It's normal to feel worried and overwhelmed though

That’s lovely news, but of course it’s a surprise, many congrats OP, I would have loved to have twins.

This was me many years back and I remember worrying how on earth I would cope going from 2 to 4. However it was absolutely fine and I have loved every minute!!! Having twins is amazing!! Congrats!!

Congratulations

You have had practice - it will be hard but you will cope

Thank you everyone. What are your must have’s for twins? We have stuff for one but not two and trying to keep costs right down. Also what help did you have at the beginning?

Shared a cot
New pushchair
Bottles with colored tops - helps in the night when you’re tired and not sure if partner has fed one!!
Shared a baby bath

Congrats! I had a Moses basket the first 2 months or so, and they top and tailed, which seemed to comfort them a lot. (very small babies tho). I had absolutely nothing beyond some hand me downs, a big cot, the Moses, bottles and bottle washer at the beginning. You cope!

I also had a sheet of paper and pen on the kitchen wall to write down who had fed, cried, had nappy changed etc as the first months were a total blur! Sleep when they do has never been truer.

Twins are ace, but be prepared for a host of questions in the street - see pic!

Amazing pic!!! Thank you very much that makes me feel better and good tips! So I really only ‘need’ another car seat. We have a normal sized cot, guessing that might be too small by the time they are out of our room at 6 mths? Planning to have them in a co sleeper type thing beside our bed if we can find something for twins that fits (secondhand). Did anyone have help? No family nearby and have the two others to get to nursery and school. And did you join a local twins club and Tamba? Seem to have to pay for both these days before you even go to anything. Sorry for all the questions!

Congratulations! I have a 2 year 10 month old as well as 9 month old twins, so I definitely also worried about coping, which I'm doing mostly by putting the older one in nursery.

I have a Homestart helper coming once a week, maybe see if your local Homestart can help? I got a referral to them via my health visitor.

We have one twin in a cot and the other in a baby nest in the middle of our big double bed. Also I had a buggy that converts to a double already but sometimes I just have one twin in a baby carrier.

If your twins are sharing a placenta, that means they're identical btw - it's only non-identical twins that run in families. I'm a non-identical twin and I gave birth to identical twins!

@Chaosonthehorizon Congratulations! Have you got any more used to the idea of twins? I found out today at an early scan (7 weeks) that we're having twins - in their own sac with their own placenta I think! Definitely in their own sac and they look attached to different bits but I didn't even know to ask about the placenta!

I have a DD who will be just 2 when the babies are due. I feel so scared and have mainly just cried since finding out. I think this is normal though?! Hope you're doing well