My twin daughters have just turned one. My son will be three in January.
I am looking for advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation.
The problem is my son is horrible to twinA. He is fine with twinB.
He wasn't thrilled when they arrived, he was only a baby himself, really, and it took a long time to adjust to the new situation.
For the last few months he has been nice and playing well with twinB but whenever twinA gets involved he's just plain mean. He hits her, headbutts her, pushes her away, punches her. I feel like I'm separating him from her and saying (shouting) "Be nice to your sister" 1000 times a day. She is so desperate to be his friend but he wants none of it.
I just don't understand why he is OK with twinB, but not her. I know jealously is normal amongst siblings, and it is hard for him having to put up with the twins needing so much attention, so I try to be understanding, but I'm at the end of my tether. What's worse is that twinB has now started ganging up on twinA, too. It's two against one.
Luckily twinA is still too young to take it personally, but I'm sure soon she will realise she is always being left out.
I've tried time outs when he is nasty to her, tried explaining that it's not nice, tried confiscating his toy etc.
Will he grow out of it? Has anyone been through it?