2 year old twins becoming difficult!

[redrhubarb]

Up until now life with my dtwins had been surprisingly enjoyable. They cooperated with me (most of the time)and were generally well behaved. Now they are 2 1/2 and extremely challenging!

They moan about anything and everything. Today we've had tantrums over:
Getting out of bed
Not having milk on cereal
Having milk on cereal
Having a spotty nappy on instead of striped
Not being able to wear shorts
Having to wear a hat
Having to get In the pushchair
Having to stay in the pushchair
Not wanting to walk
Not getting biscuits from the shop
Having orange juice when wanting black currant
Having to eat dinner
Getting out the bath
Putting wrong pjs on
The list goes on but writing it's just annoying me even more!

Having this all day from both babies is so mentally exhausting.

I was hoping things would be getting easier now but it's so much harder.

Can any twin mums please reassure me this is a short phase that will pass !

[RubySlippers77]

I thought my DTs wouldn't go to preschool till 2.5 either coffee but as it happened the preschool had places early, and offered to take them at just over 2. As you can imagine, I almost bit their hand off!!

DTs were going to go to the GPs tomorrow, but they've bailed on me and I have errands I have to run..... deciding whether to postpone and try to do them in a mad rush during preschool later this week, or take the terrible two along and no doubt end up as Shouty Mummy before very long

[coffeeneeded]

We have to wait until they are three for pre school. 😩😩 I have 6 more months to go. You're very very lucky!!

FWIW I would never take them on errands- it's just not worth it. Go to the park instead.

[RubySlippers77]

Oh I know, I was so pleased when they offered!! From next term they will be going 4 mornings a week and perhaps my house will FINALLY be clean after 3 and a bit years!

That's my thinking too about the errands - it's a shame because they're at the stage now where taking one of them would be manageable (not going as far as fun!) but two.....

[RubySlippers77]

The DTs have squabbled relentlessly all morning. DTS1 has whined and howled. DTS2 has been bitten by the cat. Could you send some my way coffee?!

[coffeeneeded]

Oh man. all the gin for you.

[RubySlippers77]

it is much needed!!

Took them for a walk. It poured down, DTS1 did an enormous poo, came home.

Tried various things to distract them/ stop the squabbling - tidied toyroom, pointed out toys they hadn't played with for ages, put TV on - they still squabbled. Put toys on opposite sides of room; within 20 seconds they're back biting and scratching at each other.

Took them to the supermarket - they argued over which trolley to get. And then squabbled on the way round.

DP supposed to be home by now so I can take DTS2 to the doctors WITHOUT DTS1 but he's still faffing around at work.

for me tonight. And thankfully preschool tomorrow

[Faith7777]

Admittedly, I had a good giggle when I first read your post. Reminded me of my life a year ago. My two are almost 3.5. It gets better. Promise. They're trying to assert their independence, find their voice etc whilst having to compete with the same level of attention with another sibling. Lots of walks and playgroups kept them occupied with not enough time to look for things to complain about.

It gets better. Hang in there xxx

[m0therofdragons]

Age 2-3 was the hardest and tested me to my absolute limit. My twins are 7 now and much easier but still challenging.

[Wordy15]

2 non-ID boys nearly 4.
Most of the time they're my gentle little scamps but after 3 passport photoshoots, 2 coldsores on my face and my period plus endless moaning about everything being the wrong thing/place/activity....I need wine!

Picked the wrong time to do dry Jan...

[Wordy15]

At nearly 4 it does get a hell of a lot easier.
Esp getting out and about on my own with them. We too are all better out of the house together.

[RubySlippers77]

I so, so hope it gets easier by 4 Wordy, that way I have only a year or so to wait..... at just over 3 mine are horrors they are both covered in scratches from where they go for each other, I'm constantly having to separate them. Today has been scratching, hitting, biting and even though we do punishments every time, it's completely draining and I'm exhausted. We never, ever have a chilled day where they play nicely with toys/ each other.

They are currently playing up rather than going to bed even though I know they're absolutely exhausted. I'm avoiding them for a bit and letting DP deal with it!

[RubySlippers77]

Hope everyone is doing ok with their multiples..... it's been such a hard day I had to come on here to vent!!

Constant whinging, whining, tantrumming and BLOODY SQUABBLING. So fed up of having to pull them off each other and that they can't be in the same room for more than five minutes without fighting. I have to watch them like a hawk to make sure they're not going to tear each other to pieces; I did ask my HV for advice but all she suggested was 'keep distracting them'. Well yes, that works fine if I can be with them 100% of the time but what do I do when I have to take time to say cook, tidy, go to the loo.....?!

Then at bedtime DP winds them up and winds them up and they get hideously overtired takes me ages to then calm them down and get them off to sleep finally.

They still rarely sleep through and I usually wake up by being pushed out of bed when they get in with us!

Just very tired really. And sad - I honestly believed I'd enjoy having DC but at the moment I don't, they're relentlessly hard work and I have very little support. Hooray for preschool, is all I can say.....