Help?! Twins and a 3 year old?

[EvaGraceMummy2015]

Hi ladies, I'm just after some advice really.. I've just found out I'm pregnant with twins and my daughter is almost 3. Obviously I was absolutely ecstatic as I've had two missed miscarriages, so feel completely blessed to be carrying not 1 but 2 healthy babies Only thing is.. as it's actually sunk in I'm beginning to panic now! How am I going to cope with 2 newborn babies and a 3 year old?! My daughter has started nursery school so I will have to have us all ready and out the house in time to get her to nursery etc I suffered with postnatal anxiety and depression with my daughter and am in a good place now and been managing it well.. I'm so scared this is going to tip me over the edge again😕 any advice please ladies? X

Just want to say Iv just had twins 18 days ago and I have a three year old too. Also an 8 year old but she is very self sufficient. I am finding he is such a huge help with the babies. If I’m on my own with them all he will help with nappies etc or we will read a story whilst I feed the girls. Routine is key I think and I’m yet to do the nursery run on my own as my dh is still off but I won’t lie and say I’m not dreading it. Just believe in yourself I keep telling myself we can do it and I bet we can.

Ditto :) I have a 3.5 yr old and just had twins a couple of weeks ago. I haven't managed to leave the house with three of them together yet, but it has actually been lovely so far. My little girl is so keen to be involved and help out with feeding and changing nappies. There have been a few tense moments (mostly because she wants to squash them with cuddles), but overall I feel like superwoman just getting dressed in the morning :D I'm sure there will be tricky times, but we can do it!!

Congratulations OP! Wow I would have been so shocked but how lovely at the same time. I think the thing that would scare me the most apart from the obvious of having 3 little together would be twice the child care cost unless you’re going to be a SAHM. My friend has twins and she found it very tough at first but now she couldn’t imagine life without them.

Thank you so much to everyone who has replied! 😘 it's made me feel a little better already knowing that there are women out there that are currently doing it and doing well 😊 it's made me smile as well saying 'we can do it!' because everyone is right, got to think positive as nothing good will come from negative thoughts! x

My son was 3.8 when the twins were born 7 months ago. Argh it's been hard, the hardest has been feeling myself spread so thin between the three of them. We're doing well though. I'm knackered at the end of every day but it's so lovely too. One twin started crawling at the weekend (6m adjusted!) So a new challenge is on its way but I feel so blessed. I had 2 miscarriages before my twins too so was amazed to have 2 healthy babies on their way.
A routine does seem to be key and taking advantage of any offers of help!

@Evagrace I am very much in the mindset as it has to be done. Can’t change anything. Everyone has to get on with it in our house as I was so worried for my ds he was such a mummy’s boy and didn’t like sharing me etc but the same time he had no choice but to adapt. The twinnies can’t go back (although he would like to swap one or both for a new dinosaur toy lol!) but everyone has to get on with it. One thing I have learnt these last 18 days is mum guilt and worried I’m not spending time with each twin or other dc equally but then I take a step back see how happy they all are and think who needs me at that particular time gets me doesn’t mean I love any of them less it just prioritise who gets attention first. Plus I haven’t got time in my day for mum guilt lol I’m lucky if I remember pain killers for myself 🙈 honestly you will amaze yourself how strong you are. Us twin mummy’s have super powers 😉

Thank you for that Bez9087 😊 you're absolutely right, it is what it is and we've all got to find a way to power through it (obviously not in a bad way, children are a joy but very hard work!) 😂 that's one thing that's crossed my mind, making sure all the children feel equal and equally loved etc but I've always wanted a sibling for my little girl, so I've got to remember all the good things that she will gain from having 2 new siblings 😊 I suppose as well even when you have the really tough days, I know now from experience with my daughter that they don't last forever and things do get easier!

Most definatley. And what I keep telling myself is they will remember the fun times. I can’t remember much before the age of 8 so even on bad days I always say the kiddies won’t remember it. They won’t remember such and such had more cuddles today than them they will remember you being there for them. My dd was a monkey the other day told her off before school I sat and cried when she went as felt awful we had fallen out when she came home she hadn’t even blinked an eyelid all day where as I had been a wreck. She was more bothered what we was doing after school and if she could play in the garden 😳 kids are funny things and they adapt really well. Like I said they have no choice but to get on with it and even if they didn’t like it give it a few months and they won’t remember what it was like pre babies haha.

You totally will cope! It will be just fine and you only have to take it one day at a time. I have a five year old, twin three year olds and twin one year olds (with no help and a husband who works long hours) and often wonder/get asked how I get through the day. You just do and will and will have fun along the way amidst the crazy. So happy for you. Xx

Hi OP also in exact same position! DD1 is 3y2m and DTs 9w old. It is fine!

So on nursery run- I have the DTs in a 4 hourly feeding routine so they feed at 3am and then 7am. So feed them together at 7am, wind them, plonk back in cot to snooze. It's about 8am by now, open DD1 door to wake her gently. I have a v quick shower and throw on clothes laid out night before. By now DD1 is awake. Get her ready - wee on potty, quick wipe with damp flannel, dressed and brush hair and teeth. Takes about 15 min so it is roughly 830am now.Take her downstairs and set her up with some cereal whilst I sort her preschool bag and bring DTs downstairs, wrap up and plonk in buggy. It is now around 9am and we sling on DD1 coat and shoes and walk to preschool.

Tips for managing 3yo - she helps "pull the heavy buggy for Mummy" by holding on to a buggy strap at all times - obviously meaning she cannot run into the road. Also the walk to preschool is a game. We live on a hill so we are Elsa and Anna heading down the mountain together. On heading home, she "shows the babies how to walk like a big girl" by going back up the hill without dithering , and big girls get to wath an episode of Peppa when they get home.

It all actually is going pretty smoothly so far.... jinxes everything

Obviously adjust nursery run timings to suit!!

Thank you again to everyone for their replies! 😊 makes me realise that there are women who are out there who are doing it everyday and doing it well! Gives me a little more confidence and positivity in myself.. it seems like routine really is key! Xx