Difference of opinion. Am I being unreasonable?

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Hi everyone.

So, my espouse and I had a difference of opinion, and I just want some perspective. My boy is 9 months old. My espouse was sleeping and I was looking after him. Changed his nappy, and he did a poo. Previously I have been asked to put the liner down the loo, but the poo was smeared all around, so I just put it on the plastic bag. Finished changing him, put him safely in his cot, giving him some toys to keep him entertained and proceed to take the bag to the outside bin, return and wash my hands, all took me perhaps one minute. My espouse had a massive go at me, saying that it was really irresponsible of me leaving him, that since I couldn't hear him it was dangerous, that what if I fell in the garden and left unconscious with the door unlocked and someone enter the house.

I feel that there was No real danger, he was in a place he can't get out and the whole thing took me a minute tops to do.

Am I really unreasonable and irresponsible for doing that?

Just wanted others' perspective on it.

Thanks

I don't think you have been irresponsible at all. You can't be with your children every waking minute. You'd left him In a safe place and was going to be back with him in the space of a minute or so! Don't feel bad x

Not a massive deal, but wouldnt it be easier to get a nappy bin for the bathroom then empty it later in the day when your partner can watch the baby?

He had your espouse in the house and also was safe in cot , 2 reasons I think fine!

It's fine IMO.

If the baby's safe to be left in the cot at night while you all sleep, I can't see why it wouldn't be safe to leave the baby in the cot for a minute while you take a dirty nappy out to the bin.

As for all this business about falling and being unconscious and people entering the house..... unless you live in an area that's got a particularly high crime rate, or your garden is very hazardous, or the bin's actually about a mile from the house, or you have a health condition that means you pass out frequently - it's all very unlikely, isn't it? If DH started coming out with that sort of stuff I'd be getting concerned about unusually high levels of anxiety and / or paranoia.

..... YANBU.... but the word you are looking for is spouse.....

What is an espouse?

What is an espouse?
Thought it was a typo but then another poster said it too

Of course what you did was reasonable.
In the extremely unlikely scenario he describes, once your baby became unsettled, then the crying would have woken him up.

Nothing wrong with what you've done op.

English might not be ops first language, in fact probably isn't, so be nice.

Am I really unreasonable and irresponsible for doing that?
Of course you are not. You cannot live your life with 'what ifs', you would never leave the house. Your spouse needs to relax a little.

Just to reiterate... YA (definitely) N BU.... your spouse seems to have control issues ... e.g. " I have been asked to..."

Yanbu but why is this in multiple births?

I was enjoying espouse hence using it too

I didn't mean to validate it as a word!!

sadly anyone of us could have a stroke at any moment in time. you just can't live like that. you and your son could be in the living room one minute and you dead the next with your son the lone survivor until your spouse returns home. in the mean time cribs are perfectly fine places for the little one to be while you have your back turned.
your spouse sounds like a naïve controlling piece of work.

I was enjoying espouse hence using it too

Ha, I got completely confused

I used to leave DD in her cot whilst taking a shower...I thought it was the safest place for her because she couldn't climb out...

He is being ridiculous.