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Twin pregnancy after previous caesareans

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zephyrcat · 16/02/2007 20:04

You may have seen that I recently discovered I am pregnant and had been seriously considering a termination. When I went for a dating scan this morning they told me it was a twin pregnancy!

I'm a mess of emotions and not sure what to do.

I have 3 children already, the youngest is 20 months and I had them all by caesarean.

Is there anyone who has had a twin pregnancy after previous caesareans? I need to see a doctor/consuktant on Monday to find out all the implications but woud also love to hear from anyone who has had experience of this.

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whoopsee · 17/02/2007 19:50

Blimey Zephyrcat - only just seen this!
What a nightmare for you fwiw I think you'd be fab with 5 even though I don't know you that well!
you never know I could be having twins too and could end up meeting more at hospital!!

Overrun · 17/02/2007 19:51

YOu can get double buggies, with little seats on front, or when your youngest now is a bit older, a buggy board. I did this with my 20 month old when I had dts, admittedly I didn't have another two to consider, but they will probably be at school/nursery for a fair bit of the time.
It is all doable. DTs are wonderful, an experience that I am so glad we are having.

whoopsee · 17/02/2007 19:53

I meant to say I did have a friend with a triple buggy that was one in front of another in front of another but it was a nightmare to get up & down pavements! you could get 3 buggys and those buggy connectors

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zephyrcat · 17/02/2007 20:49

Hiya Whoopsee!!! Bloody nightmare eh?! What a mad few days lol

I guess tht makes us pretty close in weeks doesn't it?

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gomez · 17/02/2007 20:57

Ah Zephyr just caught up with this - sorry it has been a shit for week or two for you.

No practical advice to offer at all to be honest - twins and 5 kids being well beyond my levels of experience, but I did just want to say hello.

Take care and let us all know how you are doing.

theslownorris · 17/02/2007 21:05

Hiya. I can't help re c-sections but I have twins (plus two singletons) and I don't live too far away from you (I'm Whoops' sister btw )

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zephyrcat · 17/02/2007 21:20

Hiya Gomez - bit of a shock eh? Especially so soon after dd2. Oh well. How are you doing? Haven't seen you around for a while, hope all's well

Slownorris I saw your name the other day and was trying to figure out if you were Whoops' sister but couldn't work out the namechange - I'm not going mad then!!

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whoopsee · 18/02/2007 07:59

It does Zephyr I'm nearly 8 weeks now.

gomez · 18/02/2007 10:10

Hey Zephyr - still around reading but don't post too often as I usually get snarled at by someone when I do .

All is well thou' - number 3 is now 4 months, the girls are both well too!

Has your head stopped spinning yet? Hope you get a chance to discuss your worries tomorrow with your Doctor, that might help.

OttergavebirthonValentines · 18/02/2007 13:05

zc ! sorry that was last year!!
mine are big 3 bigs and two small so its easier for me...hoq are you feeling?

OttergavebirthonValentines · 18/02/2007 21:43

just wondering how you are zc

ScoobyDooooo · 18/02/2007 23:23

Hope everything is ok Zephyr how you geting on?

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zephyrcat · 19/02/2007 09:41

Morning

I rang the health centre place this morning and asked if there was someone I could go in and talk to re CS etc but she said that if I've decided to keep them then I really need to go and talk to my own gp, and she cancelled my appointment for Thursday (was for blood tests etc prior to termination appt).

So, I've got an appt with my gp at 11 this morning.

God I hope I'm doing the right thing. I was hoping to have spoken to someone before starting to make the cancellations.

Haven't slept much since Friday!!!

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frumpygrumpy · 19/02/2007 13:49

Hi honey, glad you joined us on the other thread (Paolo Nutini is my current crush ). We are there frequently in and out and there is a big selection of experiences there.......Mars you know and Largeginandtonic is soon to have her 6th child. She had twins first I think.

It sounds like life has been treating you harshly and you are all up and down. Whatever you do sweetheart, it has to be right not just for you but for your whole family.

If you do decide to keep your twins then it will be very, very busy, messy and crazy for a while. But on the plus side you get to talk to us hour by hour and know that we get it and we will try to help out in any way that we can.

How did it go this morning?

jampot · 19/02/2007 13:51

my mum had twins (me and sis) after a previous c/s. We were fine and 3 days late but this was many many many years ago

she was also 38 when she had us so not spring chicken

frumpygrumpy · 19/02/2007 13:52

I just sneaked a peek at your photos and your HEAVENLY family

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zephyrcat · 19/02/2007 13:55

Hiya frumpygrumpy This morning went ok, kind of nothing really! The doc said that four cs is not a problem - very matter of factly, and that she would sign me straight over to a midwife so I'm hoping that the midwife calls fairly soon so I can have a proper chat about the mess that is my head just now!!

Life is already hectic with the 3 I have so it can't get much worse (or is that blatant naivety??! ) I've just seen a pram on the multiples thread with a toddler seat on top which solves at least one problem!!

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frumpygrumpy · 19/02/2007 13:57

So, are you keeping them? Or still just letting it tickle round your head a bit?

throckenholt · 19/02/2007 14:02

I had a "natural" birth both times (not that I would call either natural but they were not C/S) - so no advice about that - but try over on the forums at twinsclub.co.uk (probably the advice and support bit is best) - lots of people there have had twins after a c/s.

I know one person who has had 5 c/s - twins the second time I think, and she never mentioned having problems.

The word twins is scary to everyone when you first hear it - but it is a real privilege seeing two little people grow up together and witness the special bond. Not everyone is lucky enough to be given that.

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zephyrcat · 19/02/2007 14:07

Well, as Throckenholt says "it is a real privilege seeing two little people grow up together and witness the special bond. Not everyone is lucky enough to be given that."
Which is basically my line of thinking and which has made me 99% want to keep them.

I'm just scared that I'm overlooking the logical and won't be able to cope with them all so little!

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zephyrcat · 19/02/2007 14:09

I'm not very good at being pregnant either. I'm amazed DP has survived the last 3 alive... mood swings is an understatement!

Also with DD2, she was unexpected and I think I had some kind of ante-natal depression so I'm worried about going through that again - for the sake of dp and the children!

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speedymama · 19/02/2007 14:17

Congratulations Zephyrcat. I'm really happy for you and as the mother of twin boys who will be 3yo this week, all I can say is that they are wonderful and precious. You will not regret having them - they are such a blessing.

My grandmother had 16 children and was widowed before the last one was born. This was in Jamaica where there was no welfare system. She survived and so did her brood.

throckenholt · 19/02/2007 14:26

my sympathies - pregnancy was not my finest hour either - but it is really a small spart of having children in the great scheme of things (just seems to last forever when you are in the middle of it).

There is no denying it will probably be tough at times - but your older ones will be getting to school age and play group will kick in sometime soonish for the younger ones. And they will be able to help a bit at home with fetching and carrying and entertaining the babies. It will probably be manic to begin with - but most people with big families seem to cope remarkably well.

I guess you have to live your life around your family rather than adapting the family to your life which people with only one or two kids tend to do.

frumpygrumpy · 19/02/2007 18:44

zephyrcat I found it extrememly hard in the beginning and MN scraped me up and saved me. I don't know if anyone with twins does cope but we all have found our way of surviving (mine involves Paolo Nutini played very loudly, wine, gin, MN, lots of help and now some nursery days). And amidst all the mayhem, there is a slice of loveliness that I certainly am glad for. It is a whirl but it is special. Stay strong and whatever the decision, its your decision and we all will respect that.

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