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Multiple births

When do you start showing with twins? What is life with twins like? Join the conversation on our Multiple Births forum.

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Great things about twins

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quesadillas6 · 25/09/2015 20:00

Nearly two weeks in with my boy/girl twins, and very overwhelmed by the whole experience. It's the most difficult thing I've ever dealt with. So, in an attempt to de-stress a bit, thought I'd ask those of you with older twins to share some really great things about having twins. Mine are adorable and beautiful, but I'm finding them difficult to handle right now.im sure it'll get easier. Won't it?!!

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neversleepagain · 25/09/2015 20:29

The first year is hard, the first few months are pretty awful tbh. Ours are 3 next week and are going through a dreadful phase at the moment and I feel like I did in the early days again.

The best thing about twins is that I don't have to have any more children :)

Congratulations!

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quesadillas6 · 25/09/2015 21:04

Ha! I've been thinking that so far the best thing about having twins is not being pregnant with twins.

They are adorable, and I'm so looking forward to watching them grow. But I'm not a natural baby person, so it's tough at the moment. My toddler us much easier . so far anyway, he could turn into a terror at any moment.

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neversleepagain · 25/09/2015 21:07

I won't lie, it is hard with many dark moments but it won't be like this forever. A lovely old woman said to me in the kindest way when she saw my two trying to murder each other at toddler group last week "they do eventually become nice to be around"

I am holding onto that thought.

StealthPolarBear · 25/09/2015 21:11

If you're like me your childhood fantasies about being a mum have been realised :)

GoofyIsACow · 25/09/2015 21:12

Mine are 4 and have just started school. They are wonderfully caring and great at sharing. they batter the shit out of each other in the next breath

They play really well together whereas older DC needs constant adult company.

They have their best mate with them at school but are also great at making friends. They are incredibly sociable.

They really are the (2 of the 3) cutest creatures I have ever met and although they drive me round the bend, having twins is a constant subject of marvel to both DH and I and every single person we/they meet.

The first year is horrid mostly and the first few months were utter hell in my opinion.

It doesn't get easier, it gets different... Hard in different, more manageable ways.

now they are at school it is much easier for six hours a day at least

Whatever you think or whatever you think anyone else thinks, I can promise you, you are doing an absolutely incredible job! Two tiny people!
Good luck and congratulations

Whatevva · 25/09/2015 21:12

Mine are 21 and the best thing that ever happened to me. I must admit the first years are just continuous work, and there are plenty of rough times and times when everything hits you all at once and it can be hard to cope with. But remember to enjoy the nice bits and take photos, or that will be all you remember! They soon grow up.

I used to be stopped by old ladies who said they had twins who were 45 etc, so the novelty had not worn off!

StealthPolarBear · 25/09/2015 21:12

Sorry I don't have twins but I always wanted them
I have no doubt it's really hard. But hold onto the fact that many people are secretly very jealous :o

cathpip · 25/09/2015 21:19

My identical twin is my best friend, don't get me wrong we fought (I may have tried to attack her with a hockey stick when we were 16, but then she did throw my hi fi down the stairs). What we do find hilarious now is that all our dc including her twins all look the same and they get very confused having two mummy's :)

SteppingonLego · 25/09/2015 21:23

Agree the first few months is terrible. Actually I don't remember much of it - probably blocked it out!

Mine are 9 now and brilliant. Best mates. They are fascinating to me and still get a lot of attention (identical). The bond they have is amazing. But they do seem to get into twice as much mischief - there is always someone to go along with a 'good idea'

When it's hard try to remember how lucky you are. You'll get double the cuddles!

PotOfYoghurt · 25/09/2015 21:26

My twin is the most important person to me (as I have neither a DP or DC) and I would never change being a twin.

It has its difficulties of course, we were are very competitive, and often struggled with learning boundaries for privacy etc. But having someone who is so like you that you can glance at each other and know that you're thinking the exact some thing (through knowing each other so well, not any psychic link) is a bond unlike any other. It's truly special.

Mousybrown · 25/09/2015 21:31

Mine are 11...but I have two others so they can't have been to bad. Mine were early and poorly so it meant when they did come home 1 I was hugely greatful and 2 they were on a good schedule of 4 hourly feeds and resting periods. Having twins is tough but you have to find the joy in the good bits and once they get two a few months they are good friends (sometimes!!) I wouldn't swap mine for the world but they are blooming exhausting!! Xx

DowntheTown · 25/09/2015 21:46

First few months super hard - and frankly first year a bit of a blur (so seriously take lots of photos and videoed esp - more than you might with a single).

But now - at 3.5 - they're a dream (and have been for a while). Was at a play place this week. They just grabbed each other's hands and were off while I settled down with my book.

They also sing to each other in the morning, play brilliantly together in the bath (I had to entertain eldest lots) and are super close. They also have tantrums - and whack each other not infrequently, but all par for the course.

Mine are B/G too so I imagine they'll be less close as they age than same sex twins, but sure they'll always be close - and I hope with DS1 too.

It's rocky for a while, but take all help - and sleep! - you can. It's so worth it.

goldglittershitter · 25/09/2015 22:04

I have two boys . First little while is a bit of a stretch to say the least but it really does get easier. U get in to ur stride n the babies follow suit, I promise!

Mine r now 3 n absolute joy. They make each other (n me!) laugh all the time, help each other and have such a beautiful relationship . They do bicker and throw trucks at each others heads but largely they r so wonderful to watch n it honestly makes me so proud. I take such comfort in knowing they will always have a friend too.

Congratulations OP, u r so very lucky .

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quesadillas6 · 27/09/2015 18:41

Thanks for all your replies. They've given me faith that all this will be ok eventually. I'm struggling a lot at the moment, hoping its just the hormones not calmed down yet, rather than the start of any depressive episode.

Husband back to work tomorrow, so just me and the littlies at home together. Wish me luck!

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goldglittershitter · 27/09/2015 20:53

U will do great! In some ways it is easier. I know, I know, one less pair of hands n all that but u get ur own system going.

Hope things settle soon n u feel brighter. Hard to tell what is tiredness/hormones etc but fingers x whatever it is eases.

Very best of luck.

Rach738 · 28/09/2015 08:44

I read this at 6.30 this morning, having given up on sleep after a pretty rubbish night with my 9 week old boys - and was feeling too low to think of anything good to say. But sitting here at 8.30, now in daylight with breakfast inside me, both boys are smiling and trying to laugh - and I can remember from my dd each week gets that tiny bit easier as you get over the birth, and used to them, and eventually the good bits outweigh the bad and tiring.

juneavrile · 28/09/2015 12:43

Just in case anyone pregnant is reading this and thinks it's a done deal that it's very hard, my two are nine months old and both really easy babies. The first ten weeks were nuts, broken sleep is awful, but then it became easier at around 12 weeks when we started to drop night feeds. They have always been on a routine as I don't think I could have done it any other way. They're just reaching the stage where they like to poke each other in the eye / pull hair etc. There will probably be difficult days ahead, but my experience has been brilliant and I can't imagine anything luckier than having two babies at the same time.

Tftpoo · 28/09/2015 14:35

When they learnt to say each other's name (or the toddler version of each other's name) has been by far the cutest and most heart warming thing so far about my twins. They can't say 'mummy' or 'daddy' yet but they know each other's name, I think that says a lot about the strength of the twin relationship.

Graciescotland · 28/09/2015 14:42

My two are six months old and sometimes they lie together on their sides holding both hands and smiling at each other. It is the most adorable thing in the world

juneavrile · 28/09/2015 16:28

Tftpoo - that is so sweet. How old when they did that? I must try to use their names more.
Gracie - we get a little hand holding, but she's keener than he is.

She laughed when he burped! They also look at each other and laugh quite often.

Any tips on how to encourage a good relationship?

Tftpoo · 28/09/2015 19:48

It's a recent thing june, probably 19 months. Their speech is quite delayed so it's even lovelier that one of their first words has been each other's names.

EsmeandHarrietsmum · 29/09/2015 19:22

I wouldn't say it gets easier you just get better at it. My twins are 18 weeks old on Friday and when they were first home from SCBU i was feeding every other hour with one of them eventually i decided feeding them together was the way forward. Now they are in the same wake/asleep cycle and sleep through the night for me. They aren't too good in the day atm won't nap. Quite fussy and can be hard for me at times. I get days where I have a couple of cries and then a good week with lots of laughs and i'm sure it will be like this for a while. Like pp said take lots of photos. The good bits are twice as many cuddles. They absolutely adore eachother and love holding hands and playing together. Being a mum to twins is amazing.

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