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Multiple births

When do you start showing with twins? What is life with twins like? Join the conversation on our Multiple Births forum.

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tantrums and twins

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littlegemsem · 29/05/2015 13:51

My lovely (ð??¿ devil ð??¿) boys will be 2 in 3 wks and tantrums have kicked in big time!! Twin 2 is the worst and he is unbelievably strong, he rived the safety gate off in temper the other day. We've always had a strict routine and always gone all over but he seems to be rebelling against the routine and I am becoming increasingly nervous about taking them anywhere on my own. Any tips to help me? I feel guilty that I can't give t1 much time and the same goes for my teenage daughters because come 8pm I'm completely drained!!!

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Cadenza1818 · 29/05/2015 15:45

I'd like to offer a miracle cure but I'm afraid it's ride it out. Stay consistent and don't worry what ppl think. I remember several trips out where I was stuck unable to walk as one twin was glued to floor screaming! I too had a stroppier twin but he's a.darling now

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littlegemsem · 30/05/2015 09:04

Thanks it's good to know I'm not alone! It's just so tiring! x

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neversleepagain · 30/05/2015 11:01

No advice as we are in tantrum city! I guess you just have to ride it out, our twins are coming up for 3 so we're in the thick of it!

BettyCatKitten · 30/05/2015 23:03

It does get better, I promise
My ddts are now 8 and we're all still alive and functioning (just!)
I found 3 worse than 2 and potty training...arrgghhhh

MiloCat · 30/05/2015 23:07

Mine are 2.8 and yep, we're in the throws of tantrums too! Thankfully DTS is MUCH easier going than his sister so that eases the pressure a little. I'm very selective where I take them on my own. I bribe with chocolate buttons more than I'd like .

rainingsleepingbags · 30/05/2015 23:16

Mine are 3.5 and they alternate days, one is stroppy one day and the other the next. It is very consistent, there is never a time when DT1 is stroppy two days in a row for example! It's really weird. But it means in my case I don't have to feel guilty about one of them getting more attention than the other. I would imagine with your that DT2 will probably settle down in a while, and DT1 will become the terror for a while.

We were on a very organised routine until they hit about 2.5, and then it all went out of the window. It's an absolute free for all now, which is hard but I try to go with the flow. That's all you can do really!

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littlegemsem · 31/05/2015 13:32

I'm trying to just stay calm and ignore from the offset and that worked all day yesterday and so far today! I think I wasn't helping by trying to reason with him, it's ridiculous as I have worked with kids for years and I have older children but sometimes you just get stressed and into a negative cycle. x

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Twicethehugs · 31/05/2015 18:09

You've probably tried this but what helps mine is giving them lots of choices so they feel like they have control and giving warnings e.g. X is nearly finished. I stick to places that are easy/fenced in unless I'm feeling confident or have another adult with me when I'm not sure about their mood.

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