Do you dress yours alike?

[Linguaphile]

A deeply important subject, obviously.

I seriously never saw the attraction of matchy-matchy in twins until I had my girls. I think it has something to do with the idea of wanting them to feel equal in what they're wearing; we often go with same-but-different outfits as opposed to identical outfits so that they each have their own special wardrobe, but weirdly I feel like this way nobody is the 'favoured' by being dressed cuter or prettier than the other on any given day.

I'm slightly ashamed of this as I never thought I would be that mother.

What are your thoughts? Do you dress yours alike or do you cringe when you see matchy-matchy twins?

I've got identical twin boys and almost always dress them coordinated rather than matching. Only do matching when it's gifts (although most know how I feel and have avoided matching) or rarely if there has been something really cute without a coordinating equivalent.

I don't do matching (i have 2yr old b/g twins) and i don't do coordinating. It's like calling them "the twins" - they're two individuals ffs!!

There is something the human mind likes about the kind of orderliness that comes with uniforms or dressing siblings the same, I think, but I agree that it can't be very nice for the people dolled up in such a way.

OP, I am sure you don't choose one outfit thinking: DC1, this is really nice, it is for you and DC2, this is just good enough for you, so the whole idea of fairness just doesn't apply, right?

I'm a twin and used to love dressing the same as my sister. I don't think it's a bad thing. FWIW, we have a younger sister too and she used to dress the same as us as well.

I didn't want my boys to wear matching when they were born but after a while when I was buying clothes (rather than gifts) I'd often need an item for both of them and couldn't bring myself to buy one thing I loved and one which was ok (how would I choose who got to wear which?!) so they wore matching a lot of the time.

By the time they were 2.5 they were choosing their own clothes to wear and rarely wear the same, we still have two of some things, particularly trousers, but they are rarely worn at the same time.

I have non ID boys who have just turned 4. When they were little I used to dress them in co-ordinating. Never 100% matching but always similar - eg both in blue trousers then one with red top and one with green.

Funnily enough as they have got older they quite often demand the same - eg I buy one a dinosaur cardigan, the other one wants one too. And wants to wear it on the same day as his brother wears his. They've even got to the point of demanding identical socks some days! Other days they are quite happy to be completely different.
Is odd though because I always said I'd never dress them identically but I never thought about the possibility that they would insist on it themselves :-)

Am sure as they get older again this phase will pass, it's quite sweet at the moment though - although it does mean I occasionally call them by the wrong name. They are v similar looking, especially from the back!

I have 6 month triplet girls and i dont dress them the same mainly because im not buying the same outfit three times. However if its a special occasion i.e there christening dresses were identical.

I'm an Id twin and at 42 we still gets comments on why I don't think something because my twin sister does!?! Wtf?! My Mum didn't dress us alike (apart from odd visits from GPs as they insisted in buying matching outfits) but people still lumped is together and called us the twins ?? I hate seeings multiples dressed the same, been known to talk to parenta of them and let them know why it's a bad idea! My sister and I couldn't be more different people if we tried!

Used to know family with 3 girls, about 16-18 months in age between each, thy were ALWAYS dressed the same! Very weird! Guess they didn't do hand me downs!