Any twin mum of toddlers feel like they are always shouting?!

[Shadow1986]

Hi all,

Feeling a bit fed up. Kids are in bed, I'm sat here feeling guilty about how many times I've shouted today, what I could have done better (same as most evenings just now) but it's just so hard right now!!

Twins are almost 3. They bicker and whinge all the time. They hit each other, wind each other up! It's relentless right now. It's not all bad but sometimes it gets to me more. Probably depending on time of the month.

Do any of you other multiple mum feel like this at the end of most days?!

Yes! It's horrible. I hate being shouty mummy, but sometimes my patience just wears so thin it's so hard to deal with their behaviour the "right" way. I go through good and bad patches too. Some days end up in locking myself in the bathroom and having a good cry to get the frustration out. Others I feel like I've stayed calm and in control, even if they've been really fighty!

I'm starting to realise what the triggers are for them fighting. DT1 needs a lot more attention than DT2 and if she doesn't feel like she's getting it, either from me or her sister, she'll start behaving badly. If DT2 wants to play a make believe game with DT1, they will perfectly happily play together, but if DT2 wants to do a jigsaw or something on her own, then if I don't keep DT1 entertained she will start winding her sister up something rotten.

Thanks randomcafe, that's actually really good advice thank you. I'd not even considered to try and figure out what the triggers are. It's mainly my ds who starts it, rather than my dd. perhaps he gets bored easily?

Nice to know I'm not only one who feels like this. I've locked myself away a few times and cried. My patience wears thin, especially by bedtime. 7am - 7pm of non stop battles starts to get draining towards the end!

There have been lots and lots of lovely happy moments today too, but all I'm left thinking about are the handful of bad times where I've shouted and lost my temper. Feel like such a shit mum sometimes!!

I'm a shouty mum! My girls are nearly 14 now and my partner has 4 year old twins.....It happens...there's worse things than shouting so don't beat yourself up